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You can make it work, but why would you want to? Date someone who aligns with you on core values. I don't bother letting leftists into my life, and it's better for everyone that way: I don't need to deal with them, and they don't need to deal with me.
I've been with my girl for the better part of a decade. We met early twenties, and now I'm a gray-bearded, prematurely-bald thirty-something. She was more leftist when we first met, but not left-wing. Had she been, I don't think we'd have ever moved past the initial idle flirtation stage. Strong political disagreements is such an immense obstacle and even if you can tolerate each other god forbid you try to start a family.
Interesting to see what gets downvoted. Parent comment sitting at -5 as I write this.
On the subreddit where scores were hidden, negative scores were very rare. I wonder if it's a difference in the audience or the system.
I was just thinking the same thing.
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You shouldn't look for any greater patterns in my vote tallies -- I post enough controversial positions that my vote tallies really only speak for people's opinions on me, and not their opinions on my posts.
Very high opinion of your own notoriety I see
"I am mildly inflammatory to enough people on a small forum that you shouldn't use me to measure the rest of the forum" isn't exactly a lofty claim.
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Definitely isn't true for me, I don't recognize your username and I upvoted your post here ¯_(ツ)_/¯
I'm not saying it goes for every vote, but I am saying if you want to make any conclusions about this place someone else would be a better sample.
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It's full of enough reflexive contrarians that whenever things veer too right-wing anti-SJW-echo-chamber, the urge to disagree kicks in and homeostasis is maintained.
13's pretty weak for such a spicy baity post that's gonna attract the ambient upclickers.
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A counterargument would be that no one will align with you on all values. At some point, you're not the other person, so you will disagree on things relating to how you deal with the world. Where is it you draw the line? It may not exactly matter. When you're living with someone and sharing everything with them, you're bound to have disagreements that can drive you crazy that you need to learn to live with.
Are you? I know I'm pretty fortunate, but I have no disagreements with my wife that drive me crazy. Every topic that we've debated and disagreed on is something I have no problem moving on from.
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I said "who aligns with you on core values", necessarily indicating that disagreement on non-core values is negotiable. That's the line: values important enough to you that you will not compromise on them.
It's hard to summarize a personality in a list or a handful of sentences, but a few of my non-negotiable stances in a relationship:
No hard drugs, hard defined here as "I don't care if you drink or smoke, or even go to a concert and drop molly, but no you're not becoming a meth-addicted shell, avoid the cocaine, etc"
There will never be another man involved in our relationship romantically or sexually; women are fine, and my girl and I have dabbled, but there's a one cock policy in my world.
No abuse of children, with abuse defined as excessive use of physical force, sexual contact, or prolonged verbal/mental/emotional cruelty. No, you're not abusive if you have a rough day and yell at your kid or even smack them, you are abusive if you have a 'rough day' five nights a week and your kids visibly cringe around you. There's a difference between disciplinarian and bastard.
I am entitled to sex and sexual services. This entitlement does not mean at any moment, regardless of situation -- it means that, as a rule, there's a non-negotiable expectation that a good faith effort is being made to satisfy my sexual appetite.
Communication is important. I've long learned not to even bother investing in someone who is unwilling to frankly communicate.
You don't have to love my pets but you do need to not hate them. I'm not going to start a relationship with someone that has "it's the dogs/cats/whatever or me" as an ultimatum down the line.
You have to get along with my family. Non-negotiable, no politely tolerate them but want to get out of social meetups and hang-outs ASAP, being with me long-term necessarily means being part of my family and interacting with them.
I'm in charge. I'm old-fashioned and chauvinistic like that. When I'm with a woman, I expect her to yield to me. She's allowed a voice, and I actively do want her input and opinions, but when the decision's made I expect compliance.
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I believe that covers a broad range of core values; a woman who finds any of the above intolerable is a woman I will not even consider beginning a relationship with. There are more, but the examples should suffice.
Ah, sorry. I'll elaborate on why a pair of them are anti-leftist:
Children don't know who or what they are with any confidence. I am wholly and non-negotiably against gender affirming surgeries, medications, therapies, etc., etc., for alleged transgender children. Almost all left-coded policy toward children runs headfirst into the "mental/emotional cruelty" limit I have. The over-sexualization, drag queen story hours, Pride parades, etc.
I am White, as is my family. If you take common anti-White leftist stances, you are obviously incompatible with my family and myself; support of affirmative action, reparations, white guilt, gaslighting on racial truths, etc., is all unacceptable.
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This means standard LGBTQ activism and the typical position on race relations in the US from the left are completely, intolerably unacceptable. And there's more, I just provided a brief finite sampling rather than exhaustively bare my soul to you. Just take my word for it: I'm firmly incompatible with leftism.
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It all depends on what we mean by politics. Sense 1 is the "soap opera", the sport, the thing on TV, ie you may disagree on which talking head you like when watching TV together. That's the trivial sense, where differences don't matter so much, and you can make do by just not watching the political soap opera together.
Sense 2 is politics as it applies to everyday decisions and behavior. But this would be better called a cultural clash, similar to people from different cultural/national backgrounds marrying,and having to negotiate a common way of life both can agree to. But such differences could also (perhaps more commonly) arise due to personality and temperamental differences.
Sure. Political differences are like cultural clashes. In which case, same answer: yeah, you can make it work, but it's sure a lot easier to not have to.
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