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Can you date folks with different politics?
I watch this stream yesterday and i find it quite interesting. Im actually kinda in this situation now, i took a girl on a date, she made it obvious she was a progressive. I often dont share my own views on these things in real life, due to how toxic these conversations can be, so i just try to listen and empathize with where the person is coming from. Though im planning to open my mouth a little more about things on the 2nd go round, as to not give a misleading representation of who i am.
Whats interesting is that the streamer in question distinct "politics" from "human rights", she gives a pretty weak example with Roe V Wade. However i think the distinction between "politics" and "human rights" is shaky to begin with. No one really agrees on what human rights even are, per her roe example, gun control (constitutional arguably, but still) being another one, & there are still societies/people that arent accepting of LGBT although thats been on the decline over some decades. My guess is she is taking this to mean, "you probably shouldnt date a nazi", which is perfectly fine. But there arent a lot of those guys around in this day and age. For myself, i dont really believe any idea is above criticism, so i dont see how having a different idea of what constitutes human rights is much different from just having different politics.
According to pew research, most people, (myself included) are fine with dating people across the political aisle {note that many people wouldnt date a trump voter, but many would date a republican, but i suspect many people might view trump as a fundamentally immoral individual, and thus that makes him distinct from just mere disagreement}. I also find that peoples political beliefs arent good measures of how moral they are in real life. There are many progressives ive seen who were cheaters, liars, lazy, ect & conservatives who were kind hearted, hard working, & loving ect (& vice versa). But i want to know what you guys think.
It's mentioned in the link (under the header "Long-distance relationships, debt and voting for Donald Trump top list of relationship deal breakers"), but a more specific Pew Poll is here, some previous discussion here.
There's certainly the possibility of these people having bunches of Surely exceptions, but I'm... pretty skeptical. I realize that my environment (furry, LGBT or adjacent) isn't going to be hugely representative, but I've also seen a lot of normie relationship blowups.
First, I don't think these two things are equivalent. With the OkCupid data, you're arguing that people say that they don't see race, but actually display preferences when their behavior is tracked. With political dating preferences, people say that they have preferences, and you're arguing that they may actually not have those preferences. In one, people are claiming to be open to anything, but actually have preferences, in the other, people are stating preferences and you're arguing that they don't actually have them.
Not an apples-to-apples comparison there.
Second, as a leftist who has Trump-voting acquaintances and has slept with at least one Trump-voter (that I know of), I can provide a little more anecdata on the won't-seriously-date-a-trump-voter side. It's not because Trump is a conservative (I like some more libertarian-ish conservative politicians and would date someone who voted conservative) it's because he seems to be an absolutely terrible person. That's the most mild possible way to put it. In my mind, anyone who happily (read: not grudgingly, as a hold-your-nose bid for political change) supports someone like that is likely to be either ignorant, deluded, or a bad person themselves, and I'm not interested in forming a long-term relationship with a person like that.
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