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I'm feeling rather insane right now so I'll post a screed.
Do you ever feel like there are just... too many men on this planet? Not humans. Just men, in particular.
Humans are like 1.05 males: females at birth, so there's a natural imbalance. I can only assume this was balanced in the past because males died more: from war, or hunting animals, or just generally taking more risks.
None of that happens now, in our ultra-safe modern feminized society. So we just have a bunch of surplus males sitting around.. doing nothing... simping for women. Taking up body building, or feminism, or prostitution, or onlyfans, or whatever else will give them a drop of female attention.
Everybody knows "Ender's Game," but did you ever read the sequels? It has one (Speaker for the Dead) where they find an alien race that can only reproduce through a chemical change caused by war. That's... how I feel. Like, our species basically requires war in order to sort out our psychology. Otherwise there will be this latent male aggression caused by intra-sexual competition, and it won't end until we have some stupid fucking war over nothing, just to reduce the surplus male population.
There's too many dicks on the dance floor
No. But sometimes I feel like there are too many men who don't know or want to know how to build or maintain anything, who sit around complaining on the internet about ugly houses and poorly maintained infrastructure.
Knowing how to "build a house" is a ludicrous expectation for most men around the world. Even in the US, it's a bit of a stretch, and you have a strong DIY culture.
"Ugly houses" are best addressed by people developing more taste, architects either being less (or more!) restricted.
Poorly maintained infrastructure, that's problem for the government, I fail to see how the average male complaining about them can be expected to pull out a shovel or start laying down asphalt.
That was local to a very specific thing that's going on in my own neighborhood, and not related to the OP, so I shouldn't have mentioned it.
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Just go to Harvard Law, spend 4 years in DC, make connections on the lobbying and donor circuit, run for state senate, run for the house, run for the senate, wait for your time to run for president, and then fail because congress is against you and legislating architectural standards is fascist. This can’t be a serious request.
When ‘the people’ who can afford to do so build their houses, they do choose pastiches of classical styles (ie the default McMansion).
Or just go into software. The "builders" of our time are probably all there consciously or not.
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No, I meant a literal house. With their hands.
Not in San Francisco or London or somewhere else where it's impossible, obviously.
There's someone within a mile of me who has been working on house building, and it's quite charming, and also quite cheap. I could add a little house on my property if I had skills (my lein holder has kind of encouraged this a bit when they made the loan). Permission asking is minimal.
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