The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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In the spirit of honesty, I owe @guesswho an apology.
In the comment I made, mod hat on, to his questioning of whether he would receive the same degree of careful consideration and explanation I extended to Astragant when I (lightly) modded him, I was referring to a comment I believed he had made, which I had ignored after it was reported in the mod queue, and then found it gone when I went back to check.
Turns out, it was one made by @Goodguy
https://www.themotte.org/post/812/culture-war-roundup-for-the-week/175876?context=8#context
(As @netstack managed to hunt down later.)
That is an example of what I think counts as a comment that is mildly uncharitable or inflammatory, but charity is not an infinite resource, and sometimes an accurate description of reality can be less than so, so I, and the other mods who opted to discuss it, didn't find it worth modding.
I do stand by the rest of my statement, but I am informed that Zorba decided that the transition off-site should constitute a clean slate for everyone, be they popular or unpopular on the subreddit, and I will adjust accordingly. I don't think that particularly changes anything, given how long it's been, anyone hanged has had plenty of opportunity to lay the rope anew, but I do feel like you've been unfairly maligned and reflexively downvoted. Sadly, this is not a crime or easily fixable by the mods, though I disapprove of anyone who acts that way. It might be some consolation that I noticed I upvote maybe like 25% of your posts (the ones I see), and can't spot any downvotes.
So consider yourself to be in not quite as precarious a position as I implied, and my bad. The veil of ignorance is a nuisance to drape over my eyes, but the thing about social fiction is that they can become social fact if you try hard enough.
(Maybe make an alt and don't announce yourself next time, I think you'll find a more receptive audience, I think you've accumulated more haters than you're really due.)
Cool, thanks, I feel better knowing that.
I do feel like it would violate some standard I hold myself to to go completely anonymous and deny my identity if asked in the future. The name here was supposed to be a mild ironic game (same as when I made my flair a Hamilton reference back on the subreddit after coming back from my long ban), I frankly expected people to notice my writing style and positions and ask me the question withing the first week or two. /shrug.
What was your Hamilton reference?
'Ah, so you've discussed me'
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