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I've put up with you doing the Nanny bit because you're a mod and you have the authority, but I'm not going to accept sneering without responding in kind.
If OP can be polite about their response, I'll be polite in return. OP goes on about "reality is only allowed to have appropriately gritty" so on, I'll respond in the same tone.
You can tell me I'm wrong, you can tell me I'm banned, but you can't tell me how to feel my feelings.
No one is telling you how to feel your feelings. You know that having feelings and how you express them are two different things.
You get cut more slack than you know because people (including me) actually like you quite a lot, despite your inability to control your feelings and your tendency to respond to even the least little bit of poking with explosions. So be assured that the contempt you are showing me now and have shown me in the past is not taken personally.
That said: replying to a mod telling you directly to stop doing something with a foot-stamping "No, not gonna, you can't make me, you're not the boss of me" temper tantrum is an escalation with a response that you clearly chose. So yes, banned.
I don't need or want to deal with this nonsense right now, so I will let the other mods decide when or if to end your ban.
You guys are making some really terrible decisions lately.
"Stop doing this." "No."
That is always going to get you a ban, and this is not new.
Your first modhat comment was also bad.
You have a history of objecting to mods telling you or other people to stop being antagonistic, so once again telling me that it's bad to tell people to stop doing that does not register with me as meaningful feedback.
Your threshold for antagonism is way too low -- that is the whole deal. The OC was perfectly polite; just that it registers strong disagreement. If you remove the linguistic tools to register strong disagreement, people will just drop off and you will have your forum of (longwinded) witches.
If you stop doing it, I will stop objecting to it.
You can object all you want. Just make sure you don't do so by saying "I don't intend to follow the rules."
Fortunately I am pretty polite, and don't have much use for the 'well bless your heart' style of polite disagreement. I know it when I see it though.
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