3472094371
4hr ago
if this is how any relationship you've been is functions then you need to get out of it, that's madness
I definitely got out of the relationship business after a couple of attempts. Nowadays, even aided by me being borderline broke, where I couldn't get back even if I wanted to. Which I don't.
3472094371
6hr ago
If I were in your physical space right now, my day might just be about to get a lot worse.
Your previous message was a thinly veiled accusation of domestic abuse levelled at me, but I can't decipher what you're saying in this message.
3472094371
6hr ago
I invite you to show me a study confirming this surprising claim!
We live in the post-"Racism is the greatest health threat" world. Fuck studies.
Often people's social bubbles extend to the workplace and are at least partially geographic in nature.
Talk about falsifiability, just move half a continent away, bro.
3472094371
6hr ago
If you're always ending up with women who are crazy bitches, there are reasons for that, too, and it's not "because all women are crazy bitches, duh".
I don't end up with women anymore. Fuck that noise, sex is not enough of a compensation for that shit in my life.
3472094371
6hr ago
while yours seem to be primarily backed by people from internet forums
False. I turned to the internet forums to explain what I observed, not the other way around.
that doesn't necessarily make its outlook particularly more applicable to people on this forum
If I ever implied I'm talking about this self-selected place rather than the general population, I did so unintentionally and mistakenly.
3472094371
6hr ago
But this would be strange, since misery tends to led to stress, which in turn leaves to poor health outcomes.
I don't believe either part. Miserable beaten down people are not stressed. Hateful geriatrics in poverty often live the longest.
Possibly this is your preferences, but you might also be in a bubble.
Unlikely, since the majority of the examples I'm thinking about are only tangential acquaintances, from workplaces, from previous generations, etc.
3472094371
7hr ago
In what shouldn't be this way my attitude towards the opponent sex doesn't rank in the top ten. There are many things in my life which need to be better and by that I mean at the level I previously enjoyed, money to not depend on their benevolence is number one.
3472094371
7hr ago
Pass me the console command.
3472094371
7hr ago
they need to work out why they are dating/involved with crazy bitches all the time
Because of heterosexuality.
3472094371
7hr ago
Functional relationships? Vampires, toxoplasmosis, cordyceps, or the fucking red pill. Pick your metaphor, there are plenty.
3472094371
7hr ago
Yes. Those were mistakes.
3472094371
7hr ago
And some people are naive.
3472094371
7hr ago
It is conceivable, and deep inside I would even relish it, but in a Bayesian fashion it would need to be so overwhelmingly adhering to my ideal, with my knowledge so voyeuristically comprehensive, that it's frankly unrealistic.
3472094371
7hr ago
Funny, it always have been the female figures of my life who love to take out their frustrations on others. From education and employment authorities to any of the meager number of my serious relationships to the early memories of confusion of how my mother treated me badly after being angry with my father about what I as an adult am sure was some trivial useless shit. Inb4 a chorus of armchair psychoanalysts piping up how this explains everything, Freud this, social script that, no, fuck it, I haven't observed anyone female behaving differently even at a distance ever.
3472094371
7hr ago
I have considered it and I have rejected it. Have you considered that if you're not lying you're in a unusually functional relationship?
3472094371
7hr ago
Finally, there's also some research data showing that married men live longer. Since happiness also seems to be linked to health, it would be odd if marriage made men profoundly unhappy but also prolonged their lives.
I posit that married life is misery for men, so I don't see prolonging it as a benefit. I surely haven't seen any marriage in real life where I know any details about it and think: gosh, if only I could swap places with him!
3472094371
8hr ago
The word "partner" is a whole can of worms I will lovingly save for some other time, but I need to clarify something: I want me to be the sex object. There are only two kinds of objects in a relationship, a sex object or a resource object, and I can't stand being the latter one. And "personality" is a kind of a resource, perhaps the most humiliating one, a speculative investment instrument for resources of a more material kind.
3472094371
8hr ago
Difficulties, frustrations, defeats. If you want specifics, tough luck, I haven't been in a serious relationship in years, because fuck that noise.
3472094371
8hr ago
I respond with something negative, she thinks less of me, repeat X times, the relationship is done.
3472094371
8hr ago
If a vampire and a thrall both report being happier in this arrangement, are both lying? Why are they choosing this?
3472094371
8hr ago
When it's an every day question where you can't win and can only lose, rarely catastrophically and frequently marginally, then the purpose of that interrogation is what it does. No sex object has ever been asked about how their day has been.
3472094371
9hr ago
I think one problem with relying on TRP for advice about women is that the community is subject to evaporative cooling.
I can't see when the sub was created, but the years I'm talking about were near its beginnings.
Surely it would make sense to take advice from the men who have succeeded, i.e. the happily married ones?
I believe a man that his marriage is happy as much as I believe a hostage saying that his captors treat him excellently.
3472094371
9hr ago
Multiply that by frequency.
3472094371
9hr ago
It's in the aggregate, where the best possible result is maintaining the status quo, and the likely result is a downgrade. Those add up.
#YesAllWomen
You can't escape collective responsibility once you pinned one on us.
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