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				Small-Scale Question Sunday for June 4, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
You're arguing in favor of a broad definition of tomboy, while I'm talking about something rather narrow.  From the linked meme in the OP:


    

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    Rough speech like "I'm gonna kick your ass/suck my dick/fag"
    

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Sounds like a boy or young man to me.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for June 4, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Thanks, done.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of June 5, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


Now I’ve got an urge to map the exact route by which he moved the goalposts, but I’m trying to cool down a bit before posting.




I'd be interested in reading this as I'm often baffled and fascinated at my boomer relatives' logic.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of May 22, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
As a fellow male, I agree.  But most girls aren't interested in hearing your nerd flexes, they're trying to figure out whether you have basic social skills and whether or not you're a weirdo/loser.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of May 22, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
That's true.  Books and films on these topics makes instruments of Leftist moral education.  But IMO racism or mass killing of perceived enemies are not the ultimate sins (though they're certainly not good), so these sorts of books are grating to me.  I imagine a Leftist would feel the same about, say, The Passion of The Christ.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for May 7, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


when they have tasted success, you teach, adding "why" to "how" and praising their results




Can you elaborate on this?  Do you mean that instead of "Please do task X which includes items A, B, C, and D" you say something like "Please do task X so that we can accelerate our progress on task Y?"


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for May 7, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Thanks, this is helpful.


Delegation is almost done, I think.  I'll be fully out of IC tasks by next week, and from then on I'll only be working on low-priority tech work to keep my skills sharp (my boss encourages this).


I'm taking copious notes during 1:1 because I am indeed bad with kids' names and birthdays.  But more importantly I want to be able get into their heads as you describe and motivate them by findng cool career building opportunities and stimulating work for them.


What's your strategy for feedback?  I'm thinking of asking for written feedback quarterly in the vein of "What are two things I could be doing differently to better serve you and the team?" but also asking for opinions on individual during our weekly 1:1s.


Direct communication of deadlines and task assignments is something I'm not too worried about since I've never really felt guilty or awkward about it.  I've personally always liked terse, direct managers because it keeps the interaction short so that I can go back to what I was doing.  I think it also helps to know your people so that you can triage work to people who will enjoy it and anticipate pushback from people who might not.   Any potential pitfalls I might be missing due to my inexperience, though?


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of June 12, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Thank you.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of June 12, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I accept that point and agree with you.  Regardless of whether or not it's actual "kidnapping," it is is surely very bad for the future of an independent Ukrainian nation.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for June 4, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


My wife is pretty tomboyish, and we have a pretty normal relationship minus the occasionally flipped gender roles.




This is actually how my relationship is, but I wouldn't call my wife a tomboy.  Maybe we need more shades of meaning than "wheat field tradwife" and "tomboy."




And since we're pathologizing each other's preferences,




I don't think you're the sort of person I'm talking about in the OP, but thanks I guess.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of June 5, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
This is essentially what I believe.  As long as he remains active in politics, and quite possibly even if he doesn't, the investigations will continue until they get him or he dies.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Wellness Wednesday for May 31, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I felt the same.  I still come across a lot of words I don't know when reading old books or technical stuff.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of May 15, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Google search is almost entirely SEO blogspam for me in the last year.  I've started using Yandex.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of June 12, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
That was always strange to me.  Who are the real Masters if Slave Morality is strong enough to subdue Master Morality?  It reminds me of the JQ paradox, that Jews are simultaneously weak, cowardly, dissolute, and pathetic, and also somehow powerful, full of chutzpah, fanatical, and fearsome.  Does Nietzsche ever address why Master Morality is not naturally dominant since it's apparently so awesome and life-affirming?


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for June 9, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Definitely take them when they're a bit older.  My dad took me to Normandy when I was 8 or 9, and decades later those are still some of my most vivid memories.  Extremely cool and interesting.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for June 4, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


Would you rather have sex with your buddy or your kid?




An adult woman who doesn't pretend to be a man is a kid?


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for June 4, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I guess I don't think it is one, but there are a lot of smart people on here who sometimes are able to help me see things from a different angle so I suppose I was hoping for that.  If I could tell you what kind of answer I wanted, if I could steelman this in my head, I probably wouldn't ask here.


If I had to imagine a well-adjusted and over 25 who was into tomboys, I suppose I would imagine a guy with traditionally feminine personality traits who enjoyed taking on traditionally female aspects of a male-female relationship.  But I don't think that's what I'm seeing on the internet, instead it just seems like emotional immaturity.  Are there mature, feminine men who are into tomboys in any significant number? Or are men who like tomboys a totally different breed? Or something else I haven't imagined?


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for June 4, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Trigger warning: traditional gender roles


But I enjoy providing, protecting, and listening.  That's what men by nature want to do.  I think men who don't want to do that have something wrong with them, like women who hate children or want to spend their life in an office cubicle instead of marrying .  Those men are either abnormal or immature (I believe "manchildren" is the hip term).


I don't want my girlfriend to be my friend, she's not a dude, she's a romantic partner.  She fulfills a different need. I have male friends who fill the other role.  A tomboy just seems like subpar gf mixed with a subpar buddy.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of May 22, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I can see where you're coming from given that my text example above doesn't specify any of the body language or other nonverbal cues.  I'd still lean towards my original response though, even if she was visibly disgusted.  The comment about the brother should be said with some irony so that it's a little ambiguous whether you're serious or not.  Being able to confidently ride the knife's edge between sincerity and irony demonstrates social savviness.  The key is still to shrug off the insult with confidence.




a lot of women have hair triggers about negging these days




N=1, but when I stopped caring about whether a girl would get upset by what I said, relationships with the opposite sex became so much simpler.  Some probably thought I came across as a bit overconfident and arrogant, but so what?  A lot of women actually enjoy being gently teased. My wife would tell you she doesn't like it if asked directly, but literal everything else she does says otherwise.  There are definitely women who will respond to this with "How dare you/You're an asshole!" but tbh I always wanted them to identify themselves ASAP so I could keep my distance.  They're real buzzkills, both romantically and platonically.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for May 7, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Someone recently pointed out that with the advent of tools like GitHub Copilot, we will reach a point where most of the code Copilot is trained on will have been generated by Copilot or other, similar tools.


What weird/negative effects do you predict this will have on tools like Copilot and ChatGPT?  Will successive generations of AIs mindlessly amplify small quirks in the original human-generated data set?  Or will AIs become good at detecting AI generated content and assign it a lower weight?  Or will something else happen?


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Quality Contributions Report for April 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Do you have a recommended rundown of the development of doctrine relating to usury?  As a fellow Catholic I've always been curious.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of March 25, 2024
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Was it this one?


https://herandrews.com/2015/03/01/women-against-suffrage/


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for June 9, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Japanese crows.  They're huge and really clever.  There are crow fanzines and crow pet owner societies in Japan.  Sometimes they even have live crow pop-up cafes.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for June 4, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


The porn and headlock thing sounds like a fantasy more than anyone I met in real life




I think this sort of touches on what I find strange about the meme.  It's an imaginary version of a tomboy that is basically a bro.  Tomboyish girls (that I have known) aren't like that, they're just girls who are a bit more masculine in a few areas, or even just girls who are confident.




But I wouldn't say any of these means you're pretending to be a man




Yeah, that was too broad a statement. That other poster just got under my skin.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for June 4, 2023
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I agree that men who complain about that stuff are ridiculous.  "My female feminine wife acts like such a woman!  How could this happen to me? Who could have forseen this?"  It's silly.


I imagine it's probably pretty different for gay guys, so my OP probably doesn't apply to them