Skulldrinker
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Skulldrinker
1yr ago
Both, otherwise I wouldn't be being hugged.
I got my heart broken back in 2019 and it never healed right. I just want to go on dates with people and feel like I'm being given a chance to present myself before being rejected.
I still can't get a woman to turn up for a date. This happens with women I meet in real life, who flirt back, and hug me unprompted.
Not long ago someone tried to aggressively hook me, but rodeos, fool me twenty times, et cetera.
Wellness Wednesday aint gonna do much for that.
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
I should have been more specific: The above ALWAYS happens. It doesn't happen sometimes, it happens inevitably with every Hinge match.
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
I matched with a woman on Hinge on Friday. Talked to her for two days, then on sunday asked her out to a free live music thing at a bar for monday; cocktails at a cocktail bar, 10 minute walk to the venue. She said maybe, then the day of said she was tired. I asked her out to lunch instead since I didn't have another free evening this week. She confirmed this morning for today at 1:00. By the time I replied, she'd already unmatched with me.
Met a woman at the park yesterday. She came up to me, we had a long conversation, she spent most of it laughing and smiling. She reacted with glee when I said I also smoked weed. I asked her for her phone number, we could share a joint at lunch sometime. She said yes, shouted "Text me! :)" as I walked away.
No reply to that text message sent later that day with my #. No reply to the text I sent today asking about tomorrow. There will be no further texts.
I hate my life so much. I haven't had a date actually happen in six months.
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
ATVing in wisconsin north woods. Turned a corner and there was what looked like a large black dog in the trail. It was sitting oddly, like a human would. Then it got up and lumbered off. "Oh, that was a black bear. Cool."
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
That was about how much they hate Korean men; how are western men "different" to the degree that they don't deserve their dicks cut off? I don't read clickbait articles targeted at Korean women.
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
Every single time I use Online Dating in the past five years, the dates never happen. We match, we talk, I ask her out, she says yes, she bails, I ask her out again, she says yes, she bails again, I get the hint and stop talking to her. This is AFTER I lose weight and move to a major metro area.
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
Are we sure they're not just still Taking COVID Seriously?
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
WTF is the motivation here, anyways? Dude isn't making some sort of power-play, is he? Is there an ideological angle to his behavior? Does he suddenly hate people in the group for not being cool enough? As presented, it just looks like he's being a dick for funsies.
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
I find this satisfactory, the MC isn't a Girlboss and the black guy is more morally ambiguous than people of color are typically allowed to be. It's just good.
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
My main noting of Current Year elements of Fallout has been the lack of tits. The only sexuality in the show so far was a full-body above-the-dick male shot. Because if there was a hint of something a heterosexual man might enjoy, someone somewhere would have complained.
Otherwise, good so far.
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
My impression is that telling obvious lies to temporarily confuse people is more in the Russian national character than the Iranian national character.
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
I'm nitpicking, but why the use of the word Satanic? Do you mean the actual church of satan, or fictional inverse-christianity? It's just baffling phrasing to me; we're not touched-by-an-angel nominal christian boomers around here.
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
I stopped using social media to connect with real people in 2015 because most of them just posted links to progressive ragebait and it was making me hate them. I even moved to a new city, met a bunch of new people, added them on facebook, and had to unfollow them because otherwise my feed was inundated with propaganda instead of details of their lives.
but it's a lot if you think of them as real people actually becoming friends with you each year.
But they're not friends.
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
I'm not quite clear on how joining the Elks or a church, either in chicago, or bumfuck nowhere, gets you any closer to meeting a single biological female. And in bumfuck nowhere, there quite simply are no single women of any age.
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
Destiny has been working his way up the debate food chain of pro-palestinian ideologues purely on the definition of genocide until he got to the BBEG of pro-palestinian idealogues.
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
Probably an ex.
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
I do this. It apparently serves as a reminder to them that they should cancel the date, since it's typically immediately after this that they cancel.
Exchanging text messages is not a way to get to know anyone, and for people who apparently want to be texted, women are singularly bad at contributing to a text conversation. I do not know what being "interesting" means in this context. The only thing I can imagine is generic faux-deep prompt questions about if you can ever can't literally really. Whenever I see examples of successful online dating text conversations, it looks like two animals grunting at each other.
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
She got subtly uglied between game 1 and 2. She also ditched all her (masculine) friends and allies from game 1 and replaced them with PoC simps.
And after going through the effort of making a post-racial future with new societies to be the cast of heroes and antagonists (the 1st game bad guys were Carja political extremists being manipulated by an AI) , in the 2nd game they brought in DBZ floating space hwite people to be the villains, complete with a floating crew-cut southern-accent straight white male goon. Everything about 2 just fucking bugged me.
Also, how many spunky oseram wrench-wenches who are way better at engineering than the men but are fighting against patriarchy do you need? I'd say two, three max, because I like wrech wenches. You dont need 8.
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
Shrug. I see matches with attractive women, they just never say anything. Or agree to dates then flake, as I said above. Once more, dates actually happening would be a huge achievement for me.
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
These are the typical dates that get bailed on, and no one is ever available that same day. The only thing I don't do is add in a cliché, since "seeing if we click" is the entire point of a date. That's like saying I need to "get rolling" because I am not currently where you are.
...am I supposed to add excessive clichés to my conversations?
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
That's a woman problem on dating apps. A man getting that many dates with women he doesn't want to date long-term but look good/decent is a successful dater.
Skulldrinker
1yr ago
I've stopped using Hinge and can't bring myself to try again because every time I do, the same thing happens; I get a reasonable number of matches and likes, frankly more Likes than make sense. I'll have a short conversation, ask for a date, get a yes. Then the day of the date, she bails, sometimes with apologies, always without suggesting an alternate date. If I ask for another date, she says yes, next week rolls around and she bails the day of. This cycle continues until I take the hint and stop asking. I do not know how to get this to stop happening. I also don't get why I don't hear this complaint from other people; typically they complain about getting no matches or not hearing back after the first date.
I've considered completely cutting people off after the first flake. I've considered very tepidly expressing my disappointment at being flaked on. I've considered talking beforehand about how often I get flaked on and asking please please please if they don't want to turn up for a date, then just say that instead of saying yes and then flaking, because I find it way more painful than a "no." None of these strike me as good ideas.
And I live in fucking Chicago of all places.
Actual physical hugging with no dating apps involved. This is a woman who I met at a show, she turned up to one date, we had a great time, then every single date since then she bailed on until I got the message and stopped asking. Then I bump into her again and she runs over and hugs me. I asked her out again, she said yes, then bailed. Three months later, I run into her yet again, get that same reaction, ask her out again, she says yes, she bails, I stop going places where I might run into her.
And the online courtship scene doesn't function.
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