Throwaway05
1mo ago
It's really hard to tell what you are asking for specifically - are you asking for no romance at all? That's hard! Stories of any kind usually jam in a romance element because it is a "cheap" way to add additional appeal. Stories written for women or by women are more likely to do this because women are generally more interested in people, it's usually only hyper-masculine coded stories and themes that avoid any romance at all and even most war/military properties will find a way to slide in a romance element, even something close to explicitly homoerotic like Top Gun.
I've been on an anime binge recently so:
Full Metal Alchemist - written by a woman, most people can't tell.
Dan Da Dan - written by a man, many would guess the writer is a woman. Has lots to appeal to women and to men. Has a cute teenage romance that even some of my gym bros enjoy.
The Apothecary Diaries - written by a woman, clearly teenage girl fantasy elements but still enjoyable for many who hate that. Female lead has "super powers" but is helpless at the appropriate times and weird with significant character flaws. So yeah "basest" urges of women, maybe? But also illustrates that if you do a good job who cares. Same thing with hypermasculine product that everyone loves if it is good enough.
Now all three of those are Eastern so yes a possible theme here is The Message tanking artistic product, so to take it in another direction - how about Shrinking* and Ted Lasso? Two modern comedies with low levels of romance elements, strong female characters who aren't perfect (even the literal girl bosses), strong female coding in the form of lots of feelings discussion, therapy culture, and so on.
Non-slop and um, quality slop? still exist.
*only seen season 1 of Shrinking.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
My wife's disabled, non-binary friend
Out of curiosity in which way is she (assuming natively she, correct me if otherwise) disabled?
Throwaway05
1mo ago
This comes up on Reddit a lot so you can always search over there (Steins;Gate generally shows up on lists but I was never a fan of that anime in general).
Anything recent and high budget (ex: Dan Da Dan, Apothecary Diaries) is always likely to be good.
Someone else here mentioned Cowboy Bebop which I think is a good pick but that is in part because the English voice fits the mood and vibe better, I don't think the dub is truly stellar by modern standards.
My personal vote is FMA: B, the dub is pretty great and has some big names you'll recognize if you know their voices, but the outtakes are absolutely incredible and work better if you spent the show listening to those interpretations of the characters.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
While I'm sure you had some exceptions I doubt you had the current situation where many states had problems with a flood of zero English effort population and the government was both forced to and decided it was fine to essentially instantiate a second official language.
And for instance the Pennsylvania Dutch are small, isolated, insular, and German - and still are. Very different from getting on public transit in NYC and getting surrounded by Spanish speakers.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
If something has changed in the modern era, I would argue that it stems from the welfare state.
I am amenable to data that shows otherwise, but it seems to be that in ye olde days you came to America assimilated and depending on who and where you were you might be prevented from doing so by disgruntled locals.
Today the (hispanic at least) immigrants make no effort and seem to have no interest in assimilation. Even outside of Texas and California you see signs in Spanish everywhere, official governmental communication in Spanish and so on.
This is a huge difference in character of immigration with respect to previous waves of it.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
My guess is that under the hood this was a political grenade and everyone deemed this the easiest way to defuse it without causing other problems. The reality of the law was likely subordinate to getting out as clean as possible.
So we get this - and move on.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
I've seen a number of stories on the internet where someone states they found mountain lions outside the accepted range and the response from the government is "nope but actually yes it's just rare and I don't want to deal with the paperwork."
I can't say for sure if this is a meme or refection of reality.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
Exactly! Is that enabling sclerotic politics? Is that perfect for enabling minority representation?
Shit I don't know but it is complicated and not a new political ethics problem caused by modern political division.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
AuDHD
Made up shit likely because of poor understanding of the underlying substrate and map/territory issues.
Something like about 75% of patients with autism meet the criteria for at least one other mental illness and of the pot of mental illnesses something like about 75% meet the criteria for ADHD.
So it's not everyone but pretty close enough.
That said, I state "meet the criteria for" instead of "has the disease" which usually isn't very important but is instructive in this case since it is very possible that the underlying cause of the symptoms is not the "problem with the brain's hardware and software that causes the majority of ADHD symptoms in individuals with no other mental illness" and is instead a sequence of behavioral deficits better explained as caused by the same underlying issues as the autism which does a lot for explaining the prognosis* and high degree of comorbidity and at the same time just means that the person is going to get the same treatment as everyone else.
Psychiatric formulation is mostly a kludge used to jam something that resembles the medical model in place for purposes of billing and ease of communication.
Needless to say from my rant you aren't likely to catch much clinical conversation using AuDHD unless its more word bad less word good type situations.
However most of the wild type implementations of AuDHD are likely to pattern match to people identifying with their mental illness and trash tier social media engagement about health.
Sorry recently triggered by a soccer mom.
*I'd have to do a lit review to be sure but I'd hazard that spontaneous remission rates in pure ADHD patients are higher than in the ADHD with comorbid AUD population however this would be likely be hard to research.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
If you date enough absolutely gorgeous women you will find out two things:
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A shocking number of them are obnoxiously perfect (by which I mean they are smart, kind, and functional). It's quite unfair! ...And it puts pressure on the relationship because they know they can have anyone.
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For the ones that aren't, well it gets tiring and it happens oddly fast (especially because most of them aren't good in bed). A girlfriend + porn rapidly starts to seem better than the 10/10 girlfriend who is annoying. If you happen to know a bunch of beautiful women closely you'll be shocked at how much some of the complain about not getting laid especially the ones in a serious relationship. The quote "no matter how hot she is, someone out there is sick of dealing with her shit" is prescient.
I imagine this guy is having some number two action.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
Yeah it's a problem as old as the republic and has a buncha good to go with the bad - making a minority district so the minority actually gets a representative instead of just getting diluted is a good thing. Or a bad thing?
...It's deeply complicated.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
The one I always think of -
Throwaway05
1mo ago
I mean I worry that I get to say this because I have a high degree of financial security and that we shouldn't asking others to make the same mental commitment.
But it should be talked about.
Instead we see a lot of people with no skin in the game cheering and negatively impacted people struggling to admit to themselves that it wasn't what they wanted or not worth it.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
Many major metro areas have big and tall stores, depending on yours they may have something that fits your needs or know how to help you look.
Depending on your social network you can sometimes find athletes who have the hookup or a decent plan that doesn't involve tailoring everything. Trickier to do but you'd be surprised how much of a market exists for "finding a home an NBA player can actually shower in" and how that trickles down.
I just gave up and wear scrubs but that probably doesn't help you.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
public trust with the polio vaccine
I know where you are going with this but ironically the polio vaccine ended up being a long term public relations disaster once the pain of polio started to fall off. Check out the whole Salk vs. Sabin thing if you want to dig in.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
This is advice for the last conflict - when the ACLU wanders around as a shambolic corpse that refuses to support the rights of "those people" you know the old institutions can no longer help.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
This is unfortunate-- disastrous for some people I know. Of the anecdotes I've heard, such as jdizzler's below, everyone thus far has earned my sympathies.
Let me register myself - when the election was running the few people I felt comfortable sharing my leanings with hit me with the "dude you might lose your job or whatever" and I said yes that's fine.
Months later I missed out on a major professional opportunity because of a funding cut and people expected me to complain.
No, this is what I asked for.
Fixing the rot instantiated by social justice is going to be painful. We need to accept that.
I am sorry for the people hurt in the process...but it's necessary and I encourage others to mentally frame it that way.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
I'm not an expert on the history of soviet mental health treatments lol but as part of my brief lit review for that comment I did spot that the soviets banned it first, they also had a history of misappropriating mental health stuff for political reasons (see: sluggish schizophrenia).
Secret police with a picture of a stethoscope duct taped to their head is a bit different than the medical establishment going about their regular or irregular business.
Now the choice of death, lobotomy, or locked up and the key thrown away is a tough one but I think when people hear lobotomy that's not quite what they are thinking. Many people then and now are more okay with locking people up and forgetting them than seeing lobotomized people around (which we do do chemically now). This isn't "wrong" per se, but it's not generally fully explored by the people advocating it.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
The lobotomy as a procedure won a Nobel Prize in medicine.
Exaggerating for effect, but: I will not stand for this lobotomy erasure!!!!!!
But seriously lobotomy was a great idea at the time and we dropped* it as soon as it stopped being a great idea.
Lobotomy (1930s) predates psychopharmacology (thorazine in the 1950s), some psychiatric illness responds to therapy alone but even with modern therapy modalities quite a few conditions can be debilitating to the point people would elect voluntary death (see last week's discussion) and that's with modern support and medication.
Some illness benefits from therapy for outcome improvement but requires medicine. The obvious heavy hitters are schizophrenia and bipolar disorder (~20% fatality rate from a manic episode pre-modern medicine).
Prior to the modern resources and approach you were absolutely going to die or end up locked up in an asylum with zero quality of life. Lobotomy managed to work some of the time. It wasn't great and had hideous side effects but it was the same as trepanning. You got no tools in the toolbox you use what you got.
Usage dropped off sharply after we had options but any modality with understood risks and benefits is going to take time to get replaced by new things.
Meanwhile it got a horrid reputation because mental illness scary and authority bad. The reputation is certainly deserved but the malign is generally misplaced.
It's helpful to consider that the best intervention we have period for psychiatric problems is still electro-shock therapy (now: ECT), which is equally poorly portrayed in media.
It is incredibly effective and safe and it is hard to get patient's to do it because of the media presentation which is basically based off of fear of mental illness and an impression garnered back from when ECT existed but anesthesia didn't (which was...certainly a more difficult time).
*okay started dropping it.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
Do we know Tao is just mouthing the words? Some of the stuff I saw linked made an argument he is 100% down with such things.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
This is by no means super important but usually when you guys ban someone you put the length of the ban in the mod tag comment, didn't see one here but he does have the "user was banned for this comment" flag.
Not sure if in error or what but wanted to call attention.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
The "left" ran a profoundly successful multi-decade propaganda campaign to convince the entire country that racism is quite close to the worst possible sin. Obviously not everyone has bitten, but overwhelmingly the general population on the left AND right buy it. Now the left doesn't think what they are doing is racist, but a good chunk of the middle and the right do - and they've been trained to tear down people and institutions that support racism by the left.
This some combination of not accepting immoral behavior, being held to your own standards becoming a problem, and inevitable consequences of your decisions.
If someone believes that anyone who holds the belief that an ethic group is scum deserves what's coming to them and believes an ethnic group is scum....you are doing what they asked when you come for them.
Add in the meta game aspect of tanking trust for authority leading to bad outcomes in society? These people deserve what is happening to them, and more.
Throwaway05
1mo ago
I'm not sure what refusals they're referring to
I imagined the answer was something like this, as you clearly demonstrated the mainstream media coverage of this is exceptionally poor and I can see one of the primary vendors creating the impression impacting my family member with limited associated reality.
Sigh.
Thank you!
Throwaway05
1mo ago
I really appreciated your write up the other week, found it convincing, and reference the contents in arguments with conspiracy minded individuals.
One comment I got was "fine, if Acosta didn't say that why does he refuse to comment under oath."
Any chance you have something I can toss out in response to that?
You know it's fascinating. If the movies were actively actually bad (like worst Transformers movie bad) and you ran that for 20 years it would still be easier to recover from than what we got.
It's worse than bad.
Truly one of the most epic bag fumbles of all time.
Anecdotally - I was a kid who grew up a Star Wars nerd and it was a big part of my identity, establishing my interests, and so on. I spent a ton of money on it when I didn't have a lot of money to spend.
Now I'll never spend another cent not just because its bad right now (it is), not just because it hates me for demographic reasons (it does), but because it's associated in my mind with all the extremities and terrors of shitty social justice and all that did. I've seen too much fucked up stuff, lost friends, etc and Disney dropped their flag on that behavior.
Lots of people are never coming back and they didn't really connect anyone new.
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