reo
8mo ago
i use an old sock to prevent direct abrasions and callus ripping. using old socks will also prevent thick calluses also.
reo
8mo ago
First situation:
You can at max. (since she is platonic friend) consider one long talk about the situation with her. After that, you need to step back regarding the situation from your side and let your friend pick her choice (or pick her type of poison). Consider it as a experiment on you also. The experiment of stopping being the white knight in shining armor out there to protect the damsel in distress. In the one talk, you can explain to her few things (which partly or fully, you likely have already done):
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This man who has not left his long term GF is treating her like a second priority (side-hoe). If she considers him to be someone really special, then she should be expecting the same level of feeling from his side also (which he isn't doing). Such an imbalanced relationship is bound to cause long term problems even if she is feeling great about it from an emotional point of view.
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You are framing in it "smart" "sensible" analytical way, while your friend is working at a high emotional framework. You may remind her that excitement and emotional intensity alone are not the substitute for stability or genuine love over a long term. Particularly when at this juncture, she should be focusing on her career/PhD.
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some sample statements which can used for her: a. You deserve someone who chooses you first. b. How people treat their current partners is how they will treat you later. So, choose wisely. c. I am here to talk about things, but I will not support decisions which hurt you or others (other GF).
Basically, you have to stop trying to control her (and she should not feel that either). Give your assessment and step back (it is your boundary-building exercise).
Second Situation:
In general, Sexual attraction is driven by emotional impulses, preselection, and status signals - not rational calculus or moral standing.
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Preselection: women are attracted to men who are chosen by other women (like this friend is attracted to a person having already a GF). This is a very strange concept when you look at it from moral POV, but it is a very common situation.
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Taking initiative while displaying self-confidence (going to overconfidence, social aggressiveness, risk-taking) and self-interest (lying / faking, going through extreme selfishness to cheating) is attractive trait.
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Smart and moral Passive men are unattractive. They choose the destiny of always giving advice, friend-zoned, and never rewarded romantically or sexually. Or they only get rewards, when women have exhausted all other options and then they are the fail-safe (and even then these same women never forget their "special guy", as correctly mentioned somewhere in George Hale's answer).
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So, be bold, show self-interest (and not other-interest at expense of self-interest), disregard your social nervousness, and get away from socially/romantically asymmetrical situations/relationships/friendships. and yes, keep your moral compass correct also (gotta sleep well at night).
Do check out mrmoneymustache (if not already) - his Start here. There are others too. As such, if you have a corpus of 33x (33 times your annual expenses), then you can be retire early or coast easily. Whichever way, you may want to.
reo
9mo ago
My point was the same: opt for something which is sustainable for long. in both exercise and diet styles. Consistency is the key.
You cannot control much of the genetic components. So work around it, in a relaxed manner (less cortisol prone way).
reo
9mo ago
you need to understand which part really was / is providing the bulk of benefit.
in general, 5.7 Hb1Ac isn't worrying level. it just means that there is a tendency of insulin resistance. And since muscles are one of the major users of glucose, using them will reduce the resistance (muscles will be hungry for glucose).
- Continue the exercise routine (whichever you find sustainable). if there are 3 strength days, then add 2 endurance days (with some form of LSS) or plain walking (>30min), etc (dog walking is a great idea). This will keep your largest muscles (legs) in usage.
- continue IF, if you find it sustainable. but if you are doing proper strength training, then not of highest recommendation.
reo
9mo ago
reo
9mo ago
It seems to be some kind of low-grade tear in either one of the tendons or supporting ligaments.
Rest hasn't helped a lot apparently.
You can incorporate two things:
A). Low intensity high reps schedule. Of the same movement. Eccentrics.
- Low Intensity = 1kg or 2 kg weights. You can even use 500ml coke can or bottle. Fill it full to half or somewhere in between.
- High Reps = 10-20 sets of 10 reps (total 100-150-200 reps). You can do it over a day, whenever you have time.
- Eccentrics = in this case, you have to do the same Hammer Curls. Use your other hand to support WHILE flexing the elbow (normal curl motion) and then let it extend (reverse of curl motion) on own with the other hand removed. This means that the elbow flexors are working to slow down their primary motion (= eccentric; concentric motion for elbow flexors is elbow flexion). Keep the wrist in neutral motion as in Hammer Curl.
B). Look at your food. You need good (balanced) protein to let the soft tissue heal properly.
Do this for 3-4 weeks. You can progressively increase your reps from initial 100 a day to 200 a day over that time.
C). Of course, don't do hammer curl like motion with heavy weights (which may tear the new healed tissue) in rest of the time.
pretty much. the thumb lies in the extra-ankle area of the sock. although, you can make holes if you want.
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