Oh man, almost felt like it was my writing, that's how similar your situation is to mine.
Any time I expressed grievances over a comment or behavior I perceived to be denigrating, my parents shielded themselves behind this
She would often treat 16/17 year old me as a marriage counselor after her argument du jour with my father
she sat me down to talk she asked for examples of what she’s done in my childhood that I found hurtful
This and so much more. To this day, I still feel guilt whenever they ask me if they were good parents because the answer is no, but they'll never understand why because to them they did everything right. They fed me, provided me roof over my head, gave me education, and steered me away from bad outcomes. Lack of nonmaterial parts of the relationship doesn't count to them.
Things will definitely get better for you as you get older and set some distance from them though. I personally gave up on trying to get them to understand, but it's okay. My advice - take advantage of whatever material help they offer even if they try holding it over your head, that's the only way they know how to show love and they will hold your childhood over your head anyway, so may as well just take it.
You'll be fine, it will correct itself in the coming months. Just keep utilization low and don't open new cards. My credit score fluctuates by 60-80 points due to utilization all the time.
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Oh man, almost felt like it was my writing, that's how similar your situation is to mine.
This and so much more. To this day, I still feel guilt whenever they ask me if they were good parents because the answer is no, but they'll never understand why because to them they did everything right. They fed me, provided me roof over my head, gave me education, and steered me away from bad outcomes. Lack of nonmaterial parts of the relationship doesn't count to them.
Things will definitely get better for you as you get older and set some distance from them though. I personally gave up on trying to get them to understand, but it's okay. My advice - take advantage of whatever material help they offer even if they try holding it over your head, that's the only way they know how to show love and they will hold your childhood over your head anyway, so may as well just take it.
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