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Please point me to the actual post in which someone said grooming a kid into weird sex shit doesn't actually count as grooming to them. I don't want to read your dishonest paraphrasing, I want to read the actual words you are claiming mean that and ask the person(s) who posted them if that is indeed what they meant.
I assume you are referring to @FiveHourMarathon's reply to you below.
"I don't support that, besides it won't happen, and even if it did happen you're weird for still caring about it, yikes" is not an honest characterization of what he said. The fact that you stealth-edited your comment after he replied makes it clear that you're not actually seeking authentic responses here.
Nobody here is defending grooming, or the behavior of your high school teacher.
No, that wasn't in reference to any particular post, although I was definitely thinking about sscreader's "when you think about it, grooming kids into being castrated isn't any different than grooming them to become Anglican or not masturbate" post series.
And as a mod you can probably see that all my posts get edited 50 times, because I'm a filthy phoneposter.
If you're not referencing any particular post, what did you mean by "Several people have told us"? If there's someone who told 'us' (themotte) this ... who? There's only one set here, and the set is finite, so you can't claim ~AC or anything.
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