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LOL, oh no, this forum. And it's many diverse views. So diverse the mods keep contriving new and creative reasons to ban me for mine.
This forum has more or less outlived it's usefulness, and effectively radicalized me against it's own principles. All I see anymore are liars using arguments as soldiers to trick the other side into not believing their own lying eyes.
This lack of empathy is not what I think the ideal person should have, nor is the victim complex. I suppose this is one example of someone whose values I do not share.
I have empathy for my family over empathy for the gay furry on twitter. It's that twitter meme about the empathy graphs come to life...
Is this just 'gay furry' as thought-terminating cliché? Heck, why do you keep bringing him at all? Why does TracingWoodgrains live rent-free in your head? He was brought up by someone else a few posts up as an example of someone who, whether you like his hobbies or not, has a place in the body politic, and oats then clarified that his point is to do with oddballs and dissenters of all kinds.
The point is not about TracingWoodgrains specifically, or about homosexuality, or about people who like to wear silly fox costumes, and cannot be addressed by going "lol I hate that guy". Oats' point terminated in the question, "Do you care what happens to yourself?"
Maybe you hope for a world in which the hammer of state power comes down on TracingWoodgrains and not on yourself, but that sure sounds like an awfully precise hammer - the type that squishes one specific type of online oddball but not any other type. How sure are you that a world that crushes one guy who posts spicy takes on obscure online discussion forums isn't going to crush another guy who posts spicy takes on obscure online discussion forums?
This conversation started out being about liberalism, not empathy. Whether you like so-and-so isn't really the point. But you're using "screw the gay furry" as an evasion. The point is - okay, sure, you can reject liberalism. You can reject the social compact that allows everyone from you to furries to coexist and even have their own discussion spaces like this. But if you reject it you open the door to a lot of boots stomping on a lot of faces, and maybe you shouldn't be so confident that the boots aren't going to be stomping on you.
If nothing else, your views seem significantly more repulsive to random normies than those of gays or furries or, heaven forbid, gay furries. Maybe a little caution is called for.
This would be better targetted at the person who brought up "don't you have any empathy for the gay furry?" With the implication being that I should give up on my political project of preserving my families future, in favor of his political project of depriving them of a future, because "empathy". Maybe I took obvious bait, but everything you are trying to but on me deserves to be on oats_son.
It looks to me like you suggested that liberalism was just a "stalking horse" used to destroy society. Oats asked the question - if liberalism goes away, what happens to people like me, or TracingWoodgrains?
At that point you then replied with "I don't care what happens to a gay furry".
But the question was about what happens to people like Oats, or people like you. You can be apathetic towards TW, but he was never the central point. The point was your future. You want to work on a project of supporting your family's future? That's the point.
I mean, obviously TW's project or Oats' project isn't to destroy your family. I very much doubt they care. But the question about whether destroying liberalism will be better or worse for you and your family is a valid one, and no amount of yelling boo furries addresses that. Here's what Oats said:
It's all very well and good to rant about liberalism, but it seems like many of the things you value, including your ability to express yourself right now, are products of liberalism. Remove liberalism, and maybe all that goes away. What's your alternative?
That's a funny way of encapsulating it. I would characterize it more as "I have about a half dozen immediate existential risks to worry about. When I'm done with those, I'll have a fuck to give about anything else".
It didn't have to be this way. I would have supported the Bernie Sanders who described open borders as a Koch Brothers Conspiracy. I donated to that guy! I would have supported the Bill Clinton that fought back against anti-white racism. I would have supported the Obama where the worst things we were fighting over were gay marriage and abortion. I even voted for that guy!
I don't want to explicitly hurt the "gay furry" (and don't put that on me, once again, that was the misnomer that Oats chose, not me). But I would literally vote for the worst monsters in history who's political platform was working me to death in the shit mines, so long as they didn't support mandatory education trying to talk my children into mutilating and sterilizing themselves. I'm for literally any political project that is against that. And to the extend there is collateral damage, well, I go back to the above. It didn't have to be this way.
Virtually every other "liberal" party in the western world has walked away from trans children as a central plank of their party platform. And I simply do not believe TW's approach of "Ask them nicely to stop, for a decade with no progress, in fact it's actually getting exponentially worse. But never ever under any circumstances punish them electorally" is workable, believable, or even in good faith at this point. To the extent my chosen political project makes collateral damage out of him, is probably less than the extend his chosen political project makes collateral damage out of my family.
I would rather live in literally any alternative system, than one which has mandatory brainwashing to mutilate and sterilize children. I would rather live in Communist China, Communist Russia, or crushing poverty in Africa (were I African). I'd rather live in literal 1984 Fascist Dystopia. I wouldn't live in an active warzone undergoing genocidal violence... but it's close.
So no, I don't care what happens to the gay furry. There is in fact vanishly little I care about above stopping what the state is doing to children. And to whatever degree you misconstrue this to be about me "hating" or "wishing to hurt" anyone, as opposed to having higher priorities, that's on you.
Okay, so you're a single issue voter on trans education for kids?
Um, well, then I guess I'd suggest that firstly you take the win you've just had, secondly avail yourself of the many options there are available in America to avoid any risk of trans education for kids (there are private schools, religious schools, home-schooling, etc.), and thirdly get involved civically to advocate for your views, like going to PTA meetings, running for school boards, and so on.
You will notice that none of that has anything whatsoever to do with TracingWoodgrains, and also that nothing TW has said or done prevents you from doing it. He's not collateral damage here. There's no need to single him out. The last I checked he was endorsing the Enlightened Centrist Manifesto on trans issues, and that manifesto is deliberately a fair distance away from the woke dogmatists you're criticising. But TW's work isn't even about trans. As he himself admits, he rarely talks about them. His big project for a while has been the FAA hiring scandal, and that sounds like an issue where you'd probably be on the same side. So why bother hating somebody who is more likely to be your ally?
Moreover, this whole discussion was about liberalism as a social order, and actually nothing you've said touches on that. You are wholly free to advocate against kids being exposed to anything trans, and to send your kids to wholly trans-free educational institutions. You have those rights under liberalism. You might not have them under an illiberal system. So it seems as if you've attacked the wrong target here.
You can be opposed to trans stuff around kids. I agree with that, actually! I wouldn't want my kids to see any of that! But I don't see how that gets you to either singling out TW, or attacking liberalism.
TW was opposing the candidate that gave WhiningCoil the win you're telling him to take, and endorsing his opponent.
Also I feel your reply would be more fitting to a is sentiment lime "fuck TW", not "I don't give a fuck what happens to TW, until I sort these other problems out".
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