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Culture War Roundup for the week of April 14, 2025

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In non-Trump news, I have some new data on revealed preferences. I live in a pretty leftist place, and my employer recently made a switch for about half of the non-single occupancy bathrooms on each floor to be gender neutral. What's interesting is that this has resulted in women completely abandoning those bathrooms. Shortly after the switch, I even saw a number of women about to go in the former women's rooms, realize that they're now gender neutral, and reverse course to presumably go find an actual women's room. Some female coworkers mentioned to me that they like trans people and "have trans friends", but don't like the bathroom change. I guess I like this change, because it's effectively increased the number of men's rooms, since no women want to use the former women's rooms. So make of this revealed preference data what you will.

One bad aspect of this is that they've covered over the urinals in the former men's rooms. I asked my wife if she would care if there's a urinal in a bathroom she was using, and she said that she wouldn't like it, because she doesn't want to see a guy's dick. I guess women don't know that you can't really see dicks of someone using a urinal unless you specifically look around their body to try to see it.

We switched to gender neutral bathrooms a couple of years ago. They're all single-occupancy with their own sink and dryer, which is a huge improvement. Some of them have a little mark outside that means they have a urinal (as well as a toilet). The hallway has security cameras and is just a passage to the cubicles. Everyone seems pleased with them; you can actually wash your face or do makeup or get changed or change contact lenses or something in a fully private space now, with a sink and mirror.

Same situation in my workplace. Some time ago TPTB decided to turn some of the gender neutral bathrooms into gendered bathrooms because women were getting the ick from sharing single occupancy rooms with men (we love our PMC women, don't we, folks?), but there was a fairly strong outcry on account of the bathrooms being divided equally between the genders despite there not being anything close to gender parity in the building (it wasn't phrased this way of course) and naturally on account of the trans question. Fortunately this caused management to abandon the plan and I get the great single occupancy experience without the queueing mentioned in other comments. Highly recommend.