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Culture War Roundup for the week of May 26, 2025

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You're correct about the gender ratio on dating apps.

You're missing that every app that allows users to interact can become a dating app.

"Twitter is a dating app" is a meme, but it is also true. Instagram's gender ratio is more equalized.

So consider how many women have instagram, tiktok, snapchat, whatever, and put themselves out there with photos of themselves, and then entertain proposals from men who "slide into their DMs."

So that Kindergarten teacher who likes to crochet and collect Disney Memorabilia would need only start up an Instagram account and post a couple photos of herself holding her cute Tinkerbell ornament wearing a hat she made herself and has a decent shot at getting a guy's attention.

So that Kindergarten teacher who likes to crochet and collect Disney Memorabilia would need only start up an Instagram account and post a couple photos of herself holding her cute Tinkerbell ornament wearing a hat she made herself and has a decent shot at getting a guy's attention.

This sort of implies that the optimal male dating strategy is shameless simping, which… would probably explain why there is so much male homosocial stigma against it.

Has this been the solution all along?

No. Simping is the wrong way to go about it.

I'm someone who has reliably slid into DMs. Leaving aside the first and second rules of dating, the third would be to not come across as desperate. Be charming, be funny, but don't come across as a simp. You want her to know you're interested, but without giving her the impression that you couldn't withdraw at a moment's notice if things don't work out.

Or shameless hating. Apparently shoeOnHead married and had a kid with a hater who slid into her DMs.

Although her first relationship was... interesting and unique to say the least.

Its one of those things that DOESN'T work when a bunch start doing it at once.

Too many men simping and a woman can simply bask in the attention whilst giving nothing back to any individual one.

Information asymetries also make it possible to condemn simping whilst continuing to do it on the downlow.

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