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Thinking that someone using natural family planning within a Catholic marriage is going to be what ruins their lives is uh, an interesting conclusion
I got in trouble for this before, but my impression of what Alexander thinks is that having kids is fine, sure, but only a few, only when you can afford them, and contraception and abortion are responsible ways of controlling fertility. Just having natural sex and relying on natural methods, which leave you open to pregnancy? That way lies lots of babies, which means kicking you back down into the underclass of trollops and single mothers living off the state! Because lots of babies means less money, and less money means the lack of a successful middle class life!
Now if that's not what he thinks, I'd love if he came out and stated overtly his views. He never does, he just goes "no that's not what I said" in response to everyone, but leaves it in limbo as to what the dickens he does think.
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That isn't what the article describes.
I'd be worried about my daughter sleeping around outside of marriage in general
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"Dad, I want to get married to a husband who takes marriage seriously and wants to start a family with me."
"Noooooo, my daughter, you need to ride the cock carousel from fifteen to thirty and waste your time with cads and fuckboys! How else are you going to become a bitter wine aunt? The world needs more girlbosses. Focus on your career and I'll pay for your IVF in your late forties with the finest Oxford sperm!"
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