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Nerdy men were the first to get access to internet pornography, and for a while it was associated with them. Now guys in the slums of Nigeria are watching it on smartphones. Nerds were the first to have access to online conspiracy content. Jet Fuel Can't Melt Steel Beams! Muh Magic Bullet! Now the same conspiracy stuff is hitting young women. From an NYT report about a women's conference:
Women are more hostile to COVID vaccination, perhaps reflecting a female urge to make politics revolve around their bodies.
Many people here have been asking about my politics: it's actually remarkably simple: I want the old America back where children were born within marriage, didn't try to change their gender, and got all the vaccines their pediatrician recommended.
To Rightists with daughters reading this: are you concerned that they might encounter "natural family planning" on the internet and really f*** up their life?
No. Keeping their legs closed before marriage is entirely possible.
My daughter is more at risk of NEVER having any sex because she is at her tender age already obsessed with degenerate homosexual kpop boylove fics (RIP the Chatgpt server instance tasked to her). Between that and her godsis already being a degenerate goonette whose collection of bad dragons highly upsets even her somewhat liberal mother, the risk is more in the opposite direction. While the risk of infiltrators in good christian churches or feminist groups are both extant, the greater risk of women having impossible standards for men and defaulting to the internet rabbit hole instead is unexplored.
A lot of women who are heavily invested in gay M/M content report enjoying it because it feels "safer" and "less complicated" than hetero content. They want to enjoy a romantic relationship in a "voyeuristic" way without having the worry about the imbalanced power dynamics that are intrinsically a part of any relationship between men and women. If the characters in the story are both men, then she can enjoy it without having to worry about the possibility of "self-inserting" as the female character and getting too personally enmeshed in the story, which could dredge up uncomfortable hang-ups about her own real life sexuality. It's not so much about running to the image of an idealized man as it is about running away from the dangers that real men present.
Obviously, it's something that she mostly has to work out for herself. I think the best thing you can do is to just set a good example in your relations with your own family, and if it ever seems appropriate to bring up, be open and honest about your own political views, what you perceive as the deleterious effects of modern wokeness, etc (the danger here isn't so much the porn per se, but rather the fact that the communities for this type of content tend to be filled with radfem and woke types who could reinforce negative beliefs).
Eh, asian blove fanfics also have a hanger on female protag who is juggling the affections of the male love interests simultaneously. Its "NOW KISH" spammed 10k times to get the girls motor firing before she gets her own back blown out.
Also, talking to a preteen girl? Can't lead a horse to water. Better the smiles and polite smalltalk rather than the nonstop passive aggressive war she's having with her mother. When puberty fully kicks in I might not even have that. Values can be communicated by proximate osmosis and source trustworthiness but kids trusting their peers over their parents for relatively inconsequential shit is hardwired into human social development. The communities of crazies are naturally repelling to themselves and those witch covens only perpetuate because their own parents never provided the safe space for acceptance and affirmation for the few times the girls did their nonverbal communication of issues. I have to be more than a dingbat doofus dad unfortunately but honestly I don't mind it that much. I survived a dramatic reading of My Immortal and a powerpoint party about head ratios to background scaling, I can survive a teenage girl geeking out about genderbent Arcane yaoi.
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