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Culture War Roundup for the week of July 14, 2025

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Are roommates just not a thing at all anymore, or is anyone with one now undateable? If so, is this because of the current lack of roommate-driven sitcoms starring attractive people a la Friends?

I feel like "housemates" is still pretty dateable, especially in expensive cities.

Oh, you mean proper roommates, like bunk bed? No idea, I’ve not lived like that since college and can’t think of anyone who does. Maybe it’s workable, but sex seems like a real drag.

No, I mean there is a 2-3 bedroom apartment and 2 or even 3 people live in it. Like on Friends!

No, "roommates" in this sense is people who share the same house but have their own rooms.

In the old days, people who only needed a single room could instead live in a single room occupancy (e.g. Judy's apartment in Zootopia), but ever since we decided to make those illegal, anyone who cannot afford a studio has no choice but to move in together and rent individual rooms in a house or apartment, with all the attendant friction and problems.

(This is one big reason I still live with my mom; if I have to have a roommate anyway, who better than my mother who loves me? What's the point of moving out just to become roommates with a stranger?)

(This is one big reason I still live with my mom; if I have to have a roommate anyway, who better than my mother who loves me? What's the point of moving out just to become roommates with a stranger?)

Because living with one’s mother runs a higher risk of ick-induction in potential female partners than living with an unrelated male roommate, which in turn runs a higher risk of female ick-induction than living solo.

Living with an unrelated female roommate can be tingle inducing for potential female partners if she’s attractive, given preselection and female mate choice copying.

Maybe this is the key. Female roommates.

(This is one big reason I still live with my mom; if I have to have a roommate anyway, who better than my mother who loves me? What's the point of moving out just to become roommates with a stranger?)

Because it makes bringing partners home for sex less weird.

I have two roommates. Everyone in the Bay Area has like 7. Get Better Soon is a bit out of it IMO.

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