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Welp, 9 week visit went poorly, we're probably going to have another miscarriage, we'll know for sure in a couple weeks. I looked up the odds, seems like there is only like a 30% chance the problem is some kind of chromosomal thing that makes us totally inviable.
We found out a couple weeks ago my sister is expecting her second in January, they would have been similar ages. We're going to another baby shower in a couple weeks. This really sucks.
I'm sorry, man. We had our first pregnancy self terminate early and while I wasn't affected much, my wife took it really hard.
Aren't early miscarriages really common? I thought like a 1/5 of known pregnancies miscarried in the first trimester and some 30-50% of all pregnancies.
Are you sure two early miscarriages really puts you in 30% chance of being unviable with eachother? It sounds high.
Yes, I think it's something like that.
A couple of years ago, when I was off birth control, I was driving alone and kept puking which is very rare for me, but didn't have anywhere to pull off. Not pleasant at all. Then later that day got an unusually heavy and abrupt period. Probably an early miscarriage.
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Do chromosomal things make people unviable with each other where both partners would be fine if they had some different partner? I don't know much about pregnancy.
Unfortunately, no. Just one person having them can be a deal-breaker. There are rare mutations where chromosomes are malformed, and during the process of recombination when embryos form, they just don't pair up right. It would be exceedingly unlikely to find someone with the same kind of defect, such that this goes off without a hitch.
It's still not the end of the world. IVF usually helps find the embryos that would be viable.
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