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Friday Fun Thread for December 23, 2022

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As someone asked (ironically) in another thread - how would life change if everyone could read thoughts and there was no off filter?

It would be an extremely radical change. Humans wouldn't even be the same animal.

I recall reading that people with exceptionally good memories have a hard time connecting with people because they remember in vivid detail every slight that was ever done to them. And that being somewhat forgetful is a necessary component for forgiveness. Sociolopsychology is fickle.

The concept of social skills wouldn't exist as we know it because so much of that is just hiding/broadcasting thoughts/intentions.

Imagine if people would know every time you found them annoying. Or worse, everytime you found them hot. Teenage boys would have to be locked up in prison.

And all of this is scratching the surface. It is a radical change to say the least.

https://www.esquire.com/news-politics/a26792/honesty0707/

It's not high science, but it's pretty much exactly that.

A few random thoughts on the article.

  • This Blanton guy is a fucking degenerate. Getting a blowjob from a dog???

  • I think the author is exceptionally lucky. None of his close relationships faltered; that is a miracle in my books.

  • This is probably somewhat mentally taxing. For various reasons, I would wager that most humans have a baseline "dishonesty" level, with significant variance, but a non-zero baseline nonetheless.

  • I actually do employ "radical honesty" in my personal life. At least a lot more than I used to. Sometimes saying exactly what you think is not that easy, if your thinking is fuzzy. You have to spend disproportionately more time explaining things when a white lie could have just sufficed. And I don't mean that the bottleneck is mutual agreement, the bottleneck is mutual understanding. (You would be surprised how little abstracting most people do.)

  • There is a Molochian aspect to it. One person doing it would probably just reap all the punishments and none of the rewards. If everyone did it, the aggregate rewards could be reaped.

  • This would work only if you are surrounded by high decouplers. For a certain class of people "you didn't add enough salt to the stew" is equivalent to "you are a dumb human being".

Yeah, I think to do this irl as the only guy playing the game requires a certain Charlie Manson energy that most humans lack. It's like the gag about the movie Yes Man recast with a woman just being a porn, a guy with nothing going for him who is honest all the time is just going to fail while a charismatic psycho who is radically honest gets a hot open marriage and a following.

It's fascinating, but I don't know how to get through some scenarios like that. I was just at xmas with a couple that everyone at the table knows is going through a divorce, but I've only heard it 2nd or 3rd hand. How the hell do you handle that one? Lies are grease to get us through the world.

At the same time, I'm of the opinion that noble lies are key to enjoying some things. Constant cynical honesty isn't helpful. Tell your woman she is beautiful, even when she's not at her peak, telling her she's ugly when she knows she is doesn't make you honest it just makes her sad.

It would be an extremely radical change. Humans wouldn't even be the same animal.

I find comments like this so tiresome. Yes I understand that this would be an extremely radical change, and I don't think debating the nature of humanity is relevant to the post.

The concept of social skills wouldn't exist as we know it because so much of that is just hiding/broadcasting thoughts/intentions.

Imagine if people would know every time you found them annoying. Or worse, everytime you found them hot. Teenage boys would have to be locked up in prison.

Yep things would be different. I would hope we could adapt enough to prevent teenage boys going to prison. I'd imagine we'd have to adopt a sort of 'radical honesty' approach to communicating. Perhaps it would lead to people spending more quality time with people they genuinely knew cared about them, and less with acquaintances or 'fake friends?' No doubt it would radically change our landscape.

People would remember slights, but they would also remember good turns too. No need to make it such a pessimistic scenario.

I find comments like this so tiresome.

I don't know what you are looking for, boss. You asked how life would change if X happened. The answer is in every way you can think of. Friday FUN Thread be damned.

we'd have to adopt a sort of 'radical honesty' approach to communicating.

The concept of communication itself would be moot if you could read minds.

You are framing this thought experiment, so everyone has telepathy, but the psychology remains the same. That certainly wouldn't be the case. So much of psychology is tangled in the social world.

I don't know what you are looking for, boss. You asked how life would change if X happened. The answer is in every way you can think of. Friday FUN Thread be damned.

Sorry, still touchy from my post in the CW thread about transhumanism. Shouldn't have brought it into the fun thread.

I recall reading that people with exceptionally good memories have a hard time connecting with people because they remember in vivid detail every slight that was ever done to them. And that being somewhat forgetful is a necessary component for forgiveness. Sociolopsychology is fickle.

I can relate to that for another reason. I see people each year having the same conversations they already had years ago and they repeat the script as if it was for the first time.

I mean sure, it's great to bypass the hedonic treadmill and to be excited about things you already talked about in the past.

Me remembering things indeed maintain a bit my hedonic treadmill but the worst by far is to see the non-evolution, instead of taking the occasion of the discussion to explore the semantic search space differently, more in breadth and or more in depth, it is tiring to see the striking human stagnation.

There can be comfort in repeating familiar conversational ruts, I find. It's a sort of mutual acknowledgement that you know the other person well, and vice versa. Depending on your relationship with them, it can be very affirming and pleasant to know there's another person out there who understands who you are and what you belief, albeit partially.