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How did she show her kindness? She was not a nurse or a mom of large family or anything like that. Quite the opposite - she has no children of her own and she worked as a prosecutor. Not exactly a profession I would mark as kind. I also remember this video where she was invited for some talk with kids as part of NASA space week. At best she came out as cringe, at worst she had a vibe of slightly drunk and slightly unhinged childless auntie.
Is there something that I missed where she was very warm, loving and humane?
One of the comments: "Dear Lord she makes Hillary look sincere". Ouch. Gave me a laugh though. It's actually crazy that you get to be that age and you still genuinely think that deploying the voice normally used for 5-year-old kids on 11-ish-year-old kids (or somewhere in there, I dunno) is a good idea. No. It's a terrible idea. That's exactly the age where you use the adult voice, they freaking love it, it's not even hard.
Why? Kids are inferior- being older is considered a prestigious badge of rank (it's even easier to become old than it is to become a parent)- and that's how you talk to your inferiors. (What are they going to do, not vote for you? That's a problem for future-you.)
More seriously, a significant fraction of adults believe, conspicuously, that (like the rest of the world was) they were created last Thursday as a fully-formed adult. Thus, they can claim to have memories of childhood, but since they're also aware those are artificial, they have zero relevance to anyone they're talking to and can safely be discarded. So they might legitimately believe they remember, but since they're fundamentally unsullied by the experience, there's no implied responsibility to use the data in those memories (especially if it would require 5 seconds of mental effort or other similar impositions, or taking a risk for which you bear most of the moral hazard).
I have yet to fully figure out why this is, beyond it just being a power thing (and perhaps necessary in some cases) and most people having comparatively poor long-term memory (incapacity and malice being indistinguishable at the extremes, of course). That's why people think 5 and 15 are the same age- this is most apparent in people who are very slightly older than that for some reason. It's also a habit thing for parents, who tend to get really anxious and self-conscious about the tricks used to control 5 year olds no longer working as well on 15 year olds.
I meant it more in the sense that treating them older (or giving the appearance of it) works, so her failure to even try painfully indicates how little she’s been around children.
More largely, you’re correct. It drives me crazy for example when talking about the book wars in public schools how few people seem to truly grasp that there are some concepts that children at particular ages are almost physically incapable or grasping. Age appropriateness is not purely about, like, not showing them naked people or swearing, it’s about what types of ideas are presented and at what pace.
So I guess it’s possible I was too harsh, but it feels like a politician usually takes pains to figure out what “works” in communication, so it’s still strange to see a politician failing so badly and in such a sustained fashion.
She couldn't do it around adults, much less children. As far as seeing it strange to see a politician failing to politician properly... well, Kamala was the diversity hire.
Yes, but that's the boring non-controversial stuff nobody really talks about. We want to fight over naked people and swearing for whatever reason, probably because it's flashy and it's something only adults care about. (Kids do not care about this, they'd rather get back to the interesting part rather than boring/gross adult nonsense- adults forget that on purpose, of course.)
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I think she has cringe but harmless wine aunt energy, a soft-ish voice, she’s not shrill, she seems somewhat befuddled, she doesn’t seem smart enough to screw you over. I felt sorry for her in some of the bad interviews, whereas I never felt sorry for Hillary.
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Perhaps kind is too strong a word but unlike Hillary she didn't seem actively malevolent, which is within striking distance of as good as you're going to get with a politician.
On one hand, yes, I agree.
On the other hand, good God we've set the bar low.
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