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Are there any among you who try to limit your screen time, or especially phone time? I've started using a timed blocker app to ensure that I spend my early mornings doing something other than scrolling X. I have been surprised at the extent to which I had acquired some kind of muscle memory that makes me pick my phone up every few minutes to check notifications; but I may have broken that now. Wondering if anyone else has similar or related experiences.
For general screen-time, I've kinda given up. I work in front of a screen for 8-10 hours a day, and in the evenings I spend 2-4 hours staring at another screen recreationally. Yay. 12h average. I wish I could afford to switch careers. I wish I still lived where there was anything to do, locally, after dark. But alas, not for now. At least weekends are mostly screen-free.
Phone-time is easy though. Don't consume shit. There, the phone is now just a regular tool without addictive properties. I just plain don't use any doomscrolling things. The closest equivalent I have is The Motte. The most addictive thing on my phone is probably the kindle app. So the phone just stays in my pocket unless someone calls.
Let me reiterate: Just fucking don't consume addictive shit. Stop it. Put it down. Uninstall it. Remove the bookmarks. Slap yourself on the hand when you notice yourself doing it. That's what my 4-year old does when she notices herself doing something by habit that she knows she shouldn't. That, or hide where I can't see her and do it anyways. But you aren't four years old! If you find yourself suddenly smoking again even though you've nominally quit, then the right move is to NOT "just finish this pack", but to spit the damn thing out and throw the pack into the nearest garbage bin, and then ask the nearest passerby to give you a solid slap in the face.
Now excuse me, I have to go on a two-hour wiki binge.
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