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Can you define what you mean by Gay?
People who have sex (verb) with people who are are the same sex (noun). Also throw in people with same-sex attraction.
If we can't define what it means to be a woman, that means we don't know what gay means either.
I think we can define what a woman is. Do we define the correct human physiology by the edge cases?
Can you really? Because I don't think you can, or rather, what you define as 'woman' is wrong.
A woman is 'one whose social role is to be the bottom in the relationship', as contrasted to men which are the designated tops. This was true up until the early 20th century, though early efforts to limit bottoming to women have existed since roughly 1000 BC (that's what the 'you must only fuck XX chromosome-havers' Abramic law does).
There are some valid reasons to do this; if you force this kind of bottoming on future designated tops (as opposed to sexually mature women only, where the technology to make this state of affairs untenable would come about around 1900 or so) they won't necessarily work properly after that. And you need your future tops willing to die to maintain your society, so if you make it so they won't, then enemy men eventually come and fuck you. So we'd expect cultures with that meme to dominate.
Now, you'll probably complain, and argue that a woman actually means 'XX chromosome-havers', but you'll need to explain to me why that state had to be imposed rather than the default state of nature for human beings. You'll also note that my definition covers all edge cases [including the men who act as women anyway, or fags for short] while you're forced by angry women/bottoms to equivocate about chromosomal abnormalities and pregnancy.
I've never mentioned chromosomes. Imposed by the state? You're thinking boils down to me to be the motherfuckers and the motherfucked, don't bother getting male and female involved.
My only point is that only the sex (noun) of the person you have sex (verb) with can determine whether one is gay. The word gay I, and I think most other people, define as synonymous with homosexual. Maybe you and others are getting on baggage with word gay, to me its neutral.
Yes. There's really no other reason to do otherwise.
You can only talk about the third category, those beyond that dichotomy, if this foundation exists.
Pretending that top-gays and bottom-gays are the same actively confuses the issue, but we've been pretending top-straights and bottom-straights are the same orientation for a while now so it's only natural we'd use that language/model for everyone else too.
As for "but most other people use these categories", well, most people do what I've described instinctually [whatever they are] and most of the other definitions are intellectual navel-gazing. They don't need to think about it, they just do it.
Ahah, could you elaborate on the characteristic of this supposed demographic, so people outside of yourself could derive meaning from this term?
The overwhelming amount of time this is just 'women' (as in, what someone from the 1800s would recognize as one).
Men can be this as well, but they generally need to find the rare [female] compatible with that state or the relationships break due to orientation mismatch.
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