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I tend to think that this is more or less inevitable, and Ezra Klein and feminists have essentially no responsibility for this. Even if there were no feminists and we were living in a tradwife paradise, the problem is that what a real relationship offers is pretty-well static. The woman available to the average man is a 5/10 and while gyms, plastic surgery and cosmetics have perhaps improved the sex-appeal of a 5/10 somewhat over the past hundred years, there is only so much you can do. Meanwhile technology is pushing the pleasure of porn to ever-greater heights. At some point in the future (if we aren't there already) AI VR porn, fleshlights and sex bots will so-surpass the thrill of real sex so dramatically it will be hard to deny. Even the most attractive woman on earth doesn't come with a literal motor in her pussy.
Everyone surely has some tipping point where the appeal of tech-assisted masturbation outweighs the appeal of real-life sex and any attendant social status. For men that are more anxious, have access solely to less attractive women or are more socially isolated and less affected by shaming their intersection point will come earlier. In a sense these men are just the canaries in the coal-mine, but as long as the technology continues to improve, it will come for all of us one day.
I think this is a real social problem beyond just porn and sex, tech-assisted super-stimuli generally. As I said, the offerings of real life relationships and activities are mostly static while the offerings of virtual ones are growing daily. Real life friendships vs AI chatbots/twitch streamers, video game achievements vs career achievements, pets (both virtual and real) vs children.
Ezra Klein, the prototypical liberal has all the responsibility here.
With advances in crime prevention and detection, if it weren't for liberals, it'd be entirely possible to simply suppress pornography the way it's child variation is suppressed.
To the liberals who derive status and satisfaction from liberating people from tyrannical rules, the idea of having societal constraints on the production of fake stimuli associated with reproduction because we may desire that people pursue reproduction instead of satiating themselves with fakery..that was just something to be fought.
They successfully contested it and they won, and now there's PMV super stimuli so people with almost completely burned out reward systems have something to frack dopamine with.
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It took me a long time, but I eventually realized that the feminists were right all along. Sex (for men) isn’t about sex, it’s about power.
The motorized pussy might feel good. But you’ll know that you didn’t make another soul submit to you.
Might be true for you, certainly there's enough erotic content in that vein, but a lot of people are mere animals in this, and a lot of other people treasure the connection and pleasure someone else appears to obtain from the coupling.
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That isn't true, and your analysis of why someone might find that experience hollow misses the mark. Men don't want a mechanical vagina because they are not just sex machines and have a desire to be loved. You can pay a prostitute or buy a female simulacrum, but neither will ever love you and the experience will be hollow as a result.
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The feminists weren't right and Oscar Wilde only said the things he said because saying them made him sound clever.
I think a better model is that women find power desirable while conversely men find desire powerful.
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I wonder if the transhumanists will ever make that sort of thing happen. It kinda stands to reason, one would think - if you are gonna enhance your body why not get genitals that are super pleasurable for you and your partner?
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