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Does anyone else feel guilt over not working the full 8 hours in a laptop job?
Even though I do something very provably useful, and bring in millions for the company while being paid basically entry level, doing something that requires (imo) rare talent, I still feel a lot of guilt that I tend to work only 4-6 hours a day.
Most people I’ve talked to fall into two camps, either telling me it’s fine and I should slack more, or that I have a fake email job and should join a startup instead. Sadly I did the startup path for many years and got burned pretty hard.
Anyway, seems like most others in my corporation also don’t work a full 40 hours but, I detest this sort of fakery most of us feel forced to do. I wish I could be honest about how I do the tasks I’m assigned, often going above and beyond, but it just doesn’t take me 40 hours.
Getting paid by the hour is fakery no matter what, unless you literally keep pace with an assembly line or man a human-to-human interaction post for the entirety of your workday. I try to fulfill my obligations exactingly, putting in the hours specified and the effort to match...but what exactly is the expected level of effort? Nobody quantifies it. It's a nebulous "so long as deadlines are met, you did your part, and if not, then it's down to the quality of your excuses". Does it matter whether I do it in 4 hours or in 8? Does it matter whether I'm available to my co-workers for 8 hours a day? Does it matter whether I put effort in at a constant rate, or can it vary over the course of a day so long as the overall effort matches expectations? And again, how to quantify it? Are my colleagues shirking, faking their hours, when they do small-talk in the office? Am I shirking when I lean back, look outside the window and daydream? Are we all shirking when we take circuitous routes through the building to get a little exercise? OTOH, am I putting in overtime when I think about work in the shower, while driving, or in bed?
In the end, getting paid by the hour is a gross oversimplification, albeit perhaps a necessary one, and the only thing that matters is whether your superior is satisfied with your performance.
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