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Culture War Roundup for the week of November 24, 2025

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There’s a question I’d never considered until now: is marriage actually a pretty good criterion for excluding pedophiles? Logically, it would make sense, but anecdotally, I seem to hear more stories of married men sexually abusing children (often their stepchildren) than single men. I assume some of that is simply due to ease of access to children, but I don’t know if that’s the only factor. That said, most of the married guys seem to abuse girls, not boys, which would be less of an issue in an all-male Boy Scout troop.

Aren't most cases of child sex abuse carried out by the mother's non-married partner?

I assume some of that is simply due to ease of access to children, but I don’t know if that’s the only factor. That said, most of the married guys seem to abuse girls, not boys, which would be less of an issue in an all-male Boy Scout troop.

There's also a disturbing number of moms pimping out their daughters to their partners to "sweeten the deal".

This... New Jersey man... that @ToaKraka posted about a few months ago is likely on the Mount Rushmore of capitalizing on such a thing:

  • March 2019: A mother notices something strange about her two daughters, 12-year-old "Kelly" and 13-year-old "Taylor". She brings them to the hospital, and is surprised to learn that they are both pregnant. Taylor gives birth a few days later. In police interviews, the daughters do not provide any leads, and deny that the mother's romantic partner is the culprit.

  • June 2019: Kelly gives birth. The police obtain a DNA sample from the romantic partner.

  • September 2019: The DNA test shows that the romantic partner is the father of both babies. The father is arrested and is charged with fifteen felonies, and then is released on his own recognizance (zero bail; this isn't mentioned in the opinion, but is indicated on the docket).

  • March 2021: Taylor gives birth again. Presumably the father made the most of being out on bail.

  • August 2022: The father pleads guilty to three felonies—impregnating Taylor at age 12, impregnating Kelly at age 11, and impregnating Taylor again at age 13. He is sentenced to 25 years in prison (without the possibility of parole).

I could only imagine the seethe toward you (the general "you") that would be triggered if you posted this story on /r/Stepdadreflexes.

However, in this case the mother claims innocence. Although, what else is she supposed to claim:

[T]he girls' mother testified during a hearing in January 2021. “Today I’m here to protect them. You don’t understand what they went through. People thinking I’m this type of woman who didn’t protect my kids."

She said she didn’t know he was abusing her daughters. “My (first) granddaughter was born three month, two months early,” the girls’ mother testified. “I thought (the father) was her boyfriend.”

Getting cucked by your girlfriend's stepfather or stepfather-figure has got to be one hell of a villain origin story.

Getting cucked by your girlfriend's stepfather or stepfather-figure has got to be one hell of a villain origin story.

Only course open to you at that point is to sleep with her mother and assert dominance.

Also, good old-fashioned eugenic sterilization would fix this. As you mentioned in that thread, it makes zero sense for capable, civilized attorneys to be out-reproduced by these lowlifes. Only progressive taxation and the welfare state can achieve such an unnatural outcome.

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