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My father is still in the hospital. He wasn't doing well after the biopsy so they kept him for observation, only to discover pericardial effusion. They removed 350 ccs of fluid and placed a drain. We are still waiting on results from both the biopsy and the drained fluid.
Every single symptom he has could be explained by an infection, or by metastatic cancer. We're all sitting on a knife edge waiting for the results. He's lost 20 pounds in the last three months.
I had to go back home for work, but I'm hoping to get down again on Friday. I want to see him, and I think he wants to see me, but I'm afraid that I'm going to break down in front of him. He's my father. I don't want to put more of a burden on him that what he has already endured, but I don't know if I'm strong enough.
Hey. My condolences. One of the scariest moments of my life was when my dad to go in for a thryoidectomy after a biopsy found something too suspicious to let lie. He also has a heart condition that hospitalized him once, so I can relate even harder.
Hoping yours pulls through, and I'd say it's better to cry in front of him if that's the cost of seeing him. If he has any wisdom (which most fathers do), he'll know it's your way of saying you love him when words fail you.
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