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Not to sound like a dick, but I guess you're aware that women usually make exactly the same complaint in reverse?
Why do you act like this is surprising or somehow contradicting the parent's point? Everyone can simultaneously be low quality and have high standards, and in fact this feels truthy with respect to our society.
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Sure. And they also complain about the opposite, men being pigs who will settle for anything as long as it has a suitable hole. And they also complain about men actively prefering worse partners since they would feel threatened otherwise.
Any survey, experiment or just demographic data I'm aware of on the topic shows a stark difference between the sexes. Women will openly admit to strong exclusion criteria in surveys, act on them in experiments, and live by them demographically.
Men have preferences to be sure, but will generally date whomever they can get. The actual problem with men is that they are more violent and generally willing to force themselves upon others to exert their will, i.e. the complete opposite of our current problem. And, to be clear, very good to be kept in check. It's just that women also have toxic tendencies that need to be checked, even if they are less dangerous.
In an environment of actual equality they axiomatically must be treated as equally dangerous and destructive; the overwhelming majority of the modern problems with the relations between the sexes (problems that started 150 years ago, though various economic forces during that time would disguise this) are caused by society's failure to do exactly this.
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