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Hmmmm what I'm really trying to find a way to emphasize is that the personality and the style they have to offer is part of the modality in therapy in a way that doesn't apply for other interventions. Yes the type of therapy matters but some people are never going to respond well to a more "ooey gooey feelings" type, or (frustratingly!) think they'd never respond well to that but would do great.

I think it's more common in the MD psychiatrist realm but you do see plenty of men who speak the male language and are heavy on tough love while still doing traditional therapy, which naively I imagine would work great for most of the Motte complainer types who mostly imagine a SJ adjacent "feelings" therapist.

Okay, gotcha. I still think your analogy holds merit, and that as much as good therapists can project an affect that I see as inherently Therapeutic (think Dr. Wong if you're a Rick and Morty) fan, it's also true that there's still some bleed-through that happens, personality-wise. So general agree, just was thinking along different lines.

Also, I gotta say that given my wife's firsthand experience in grad school the SJ stuff can be... whoo, boy! I mean, most of her texts were what you'd expect, but she also had texts like Decolonizing Methodologies and Privilege, Power, and Difference so, yeah. But getting into that would be thread derailing, so I'll just say that I think that there was enough dissonance there that my impression is that she mostly was able to doublethink here way through it.

In my interaction with therapists I think many of them aren't as broken by social justice as you might expect from the training and reading material. Fundamentally the goal is to help people, and the reality of the darkness you see helping with mental illness sands off some of the naive edges I think.

So great at playing the language games though yikes.

Yeah, that's certainly been true for my wife. After a few years of wanting the hard luck cases and the downtrodden, she's learning that working harder than her clients is a bad idea and that too much of that sort of thing is burning her out. That said, it was certainly an experience when she wanted to talk about Systemic Racism with me, blissfully unaware that I'd been around the internet more than long enough to have experienced many HBD debates and that the argument she was making was essentially straight from the Dread Jim with the serial numbers filed off. GUH.

Language games, of course, lead inevitably to The Rectification Of The Names. Alas.

the argument she was making was essentially straight from the Dread Jim with the serial numbers filed off

I would say you could fix her, but sounds like she doesn't need fixing.

I wonder how much seethe it would cause on /r/CoupleMemes if one posted a video of a young attractive white couple cuddling while a male AI voice reads (naturally, with subtitles that proceed one word at a time):

After a few years of wanting the hard luck cases and the downtrodden, she's learning that working harder than her clients is a bad idea and that too much of that sort of thing is burning her out. That said, it was certainly an experience when she wanted to talk about Systemic Racism with me, blissfully unaware that I'd been around the internet more than long enough to have experienced many HBD debates and that the argument she was making was essentially straight from the Dread Jim with the serial numbers filed off đź’•

The video has to have the "with a car you can go anywhere you want" guy as the main character.

Is there a video, TV show, or movie that wouldn’t automatically be better with the main male lead Replaced by racially aware dapper gas station guy?

Somewhere, Timothy Olyphant and Josh Duhamel just broke out in a cold sweat and they don’t know why.

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