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I live in a part of the world with second and third generation hippies running around and I can't tell you how many millennial men I know who bought into the "love is all you need" mythos, got jobs as massage therapists, glass blowers (weed pipes) or went into "farming" (selling weed, now unemployed since legalization) and they basically can't get women to look at them at all because they make ~minimum wage.
And the excuses! God the excuses. Muscles? How shallow, besides women just aren't turned on by that stuff. Confidence? Jockeying for dominance, I'm all about cooperation. Professional jobs? Can't support the crooked system, man. Stoicism? Just afraid of vulnerability.
But they're slowly, rudely discovering that when women signal an affinity for the hippie ethos that they don't mean it personally, certainly not as they approach the end of their fertile years. A man with a bumper sticker that says "I didn't cry today" and who hosts authentic relating workshops might as well be screaming I'M SO GAY. But they're everywhere. I feel bad for them. They're less fuckable than the median hick HVAC technician you find in the deep south.
They were born into a little micro culture that told them masculinity was bad and they believed it.
I’d say the two important pieces of data here are ‘second and third generation hippies’ and ‘end of their fertile years’. I’m assuming casual and/or premarital sex is completely normalized in social circles consisting of hippie descendants and that not all of these guys are hopeless loser dorks. I imagine many of them are but there is necessarily a level of variation among any group of men. And sexually attractive and blue-pilled men i.e. men unaware of the real sources of their attractiveness and social status do exist everywhere and are not rare. This probably means that many of these guys had affairs and flings with women in their social circle as long as those women were young and mainly interested in having fun, hanging out etc. and just assumed that this is how it’ll always be.
I find it curious that you listed massage therapists. Do those happen to be gay by any chance?
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Honestly, i consider this to be almost as bad as the red-pill, if not worse. At least the red-pill had some truth underneath the toxicity.
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