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Are you at all concerned you'll find stuff that will make you think less of him?
My wife isn't technical enough to save my hardware. But I'm wondering if I should set my "personal" files to be at least less obvious or something.
Not at all worried about anything I might find. I was married to him for 30 years. I know everything important about him and there's nothing I would or could find that would diminish my love and respect for him.
FWIW, I appreciate that my husband named his directories rationally so I just have to delete "porn" and won't be accidentally running into it when I'm trying to save family photos from loss.
I personally think it's awesome that you're going through the effort of recovering this, especially given the fact that he created art. I think it'll be worth it - I only asked the question because I don't see the value in digging through his porn stash (if he even has one). Best of luck!
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Forgive me for being blunt, but I think it's important to tell you that I don't think this is any of your business or that this is an appropriate time to ask.
Given that there's some concern about her finding them I don't believe there's any possible justification for you to save such things locally in the first place. Not trying to beat you over the head with this, especially given the above. It's the conclusion I've arrived at after much soul-searching and I wanted to share. As it stands you're just revealing your preference for which you love more.
... It's not my business (what the fuck?), and that's not what I'm asking. It's a question meant to make OP think about what they want to get from recovering these files. Is there any value to be found in scraping into what might be someone's most private directories? I wouldn't read through my wife's diary unless she expressly gave me permission to after her death.
It's the same concept if he were a nerd who spent a lot of time on his computer. People deserve some privacy, even from their intimate partners, and even in death. And I'll take a hard pass on your judgment about what's appropriate to keep on my personal computer, thanks.
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While I wouldn't be quite that harsh and blunt, I do agree. Now's probably not the time to be wondering if he had slightly questionable porn bookmarks or retained pictures of an ex.
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