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naraburns  nihil supernum  1yr ago (text post)   3434 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for February 12, 2023

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I think I might have a last minute v-day date soon (or one tomorrow night). Pretty Argentinian girl, I live in America. Unfortunately, she’s a huge sports fan and I am not. What should I know about the World Cup Finale or the Super Bowl? I didn’t watch either of them. Aside from who played/won ofc. This is a first date.

So? how did the date go?

She stopped responding. But I had an ice cream date with a med school student last night that went well and boba with a real estate agent tomorrow so I’ll brush it off.

good for you man! happy for you.

None. Actively play up your ignorance in a good natured way, make fun of her for being manlier than you because she loves football.

I've rarely dated a woman who was more into sports than I was, but I've dated several who played more video games than I did. Good natured ribbing about her masculine hobbies, or self deprecating jokes about your own feminine ones (hopefully you present sufficiently masculine to handle that).

Much better than telling her the problem with arsenal is they always try to walk it in.

Though if she seems likely to get it, actually telling her the problem with arsenal seems like a pretty good tactic. :)

the problem with arsenal

is that you can't spell it without "arse"?

https://youtube.com/watch?v=6yN2H3--1aw

I'm not all that much of a Casanova, but trying to impress a woman with your knowledge of something you're not into doesn't seem likely to get you very far. If she likes talking about it, just find a way to ask questions, so she keeps talking, and feels like an interesting person. I've found it to be a good approach for any kind of relationship, people love feeling like they're interesting.

I’m not really trying to floor her with any encyclopedic knowledge on it but I’d like to not come off as a total noob. I consider myself an otherwise good conversationalist.

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