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Why do a lot of women not like acknowledging the practical aspects of dating? By this I mean that women appear to be put off by me simply discussing:
Of course I'm not discussing these topic with women I'm trying to actually date, I'm not that autistic. But if you're trying to actually find a partner to settle down and have kids with, how do you not take all of these into account? Not only does it reek of impracticality, but on an even deeper level, it appears that any attempt to practically model the dating world at all produces a negative female reaction.
(Maybe it's because some of these women don't ever intend on having kids and therefore don't ever have to be realistic about dating.)
Women like people who can create vibe (or at least make harmony with those who can). Autistic spergouts about market dynamics, utility, and looks ratings are the antithesis of vibe.
Hahaha I think you have hit on something here. The spergouts are themselves a vibe, but perhaps as someone else mentioned, they're the vibe of "instrumentalising", "dehumanising", and "commoditising".
There's actually a passage in the Old Testament about numbering people, in II Samuel 24:
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Traditional theologians do a lot of mental gymnastics for this passage -- where is this even a sin? Is there some secret list of sins we haven't been told about? How does David, and much less the barely-even-religious Joab, even know about this? Why is David being coerced to sin here? You don't even get the coy Calvinist cop-out like you do with Pharaoh in Egypt, where Pharaoh totally hardened his own heart first, sweetie, so now it's cool for the Lord to do it. You just outright have the text saying David was moved against Israel to do something he knew was a sin, then he's not even punished for it -- it's the people who are punished! What on earth.
To the social Darwinist, none of this is confusing. Obviously the judgment of God is upon any civilisation who measures its people to treat them like Amazon employees.
Wait, did these guys get smote just for doing a census?
Yes, and not only that, for doing a census at the behest of God.
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