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Culture War Roundup for the week of April 27, 2026

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Do you live in Leningrad?

I haven't been on the apps in a couple years but putting conservative on your profile in any major metro in the West is absolute poison as a guy

Is it? As a guy, don’t you want to differentiate yourself? Better to stand out for 10% of the population compared to be unnoticed by 100%.

You're standing out as a complete autist who doesn't want to get laid. If you're otherwise a 10 it might work but you're gonna struggle immensely otherwise

No, you do not, not in this case. It doesn't particularly stand out as anything other than proof to them that so many men are racist fascist orange man supporters.

Also, apparently listing "moderate" or "not political" are also regarded by women as proof of being a sexist racist transphobic bad person.

I don’t believe that 95% of women that age are progressive. Let’s say 70% are, 10% are neutral, and 20% are on the right.

Why aren’t you increasing your odds on the 20%

Because a conservative woman who isn't already married is a "Pick Me!" who's after hotter guys than me.

Because I don't want to listen to Jesus talk any more than I want to listen to BLM ACAB LGBTQ et cetera talk.

Because I no longer use online dating after going through a summer where 95% of my arranged dates flaked or ghosted me the day of the date, and this included the people I'd met IRL, and the only ones who turned up were obese or had all the personality of wet styrofoam.

Yes this is what the loud majority (minority?) might say. But again you aren’t trying to attract the majority of women. You are trying to attract a small enough set of women to find hopefully a good match.

Yeah. I've literally AB-tested this anything but liberal under politics kills you in large metros

Chicago.

Chicago is awful for this sort of hicklib/post-tumblr politics, but on a dating app you can basically treat it as 20%/80% "I'm cripplingly neurotic and vanishingly unlikely even to go on a date" or "I'm absolutely not relationship material, but play the first date right and I'm coming straight back to yours". You can respond to that signal as is appropriate for your goals.

How is a major metro area "hicklib?"

Hicklib is a state of mind. They're still motivated by a hatred of the podunk chuds they see as surrounding them, and still look up to an ideal of the rainbowed coasts. Many if not most have moved from smaller places in the midwest to Chicago. You even get hicklib transplants in New York and SF, though they usually try to hide it.

Ehh, I found plenty of conservative women in chicago, when I lived there in the late 20-teen/early 2020s, including a date with a straight up neo-nazi adjacent woman. There are a lot of people in the city and even more in the burbs, it's just a numbers and signaling problem.

including a date with a straight up neo-nazi adjacent woman.

I was going to make a comment about you fumbling a win, but then I remembered the one I met who had a swastika and SS bolt tattoos. A man's got to know his limitations.

I fumbled nothing lol. She was interested afterwards, I was not, we wanted a different relationship style. I might have a pathologically open mind but spendapotamuses still trigger a disgust reaction in me.

Edit: neo-nazi in views but not a skinhead or a “baddie” looks wise, she definitely wasn’t the biker bar type.

All the conservative Chicagoland women are in the collar counties and don't use dating apps.

I'm not looking for conservative, I'm looking for someone who doesn't ask me what my pronouns are.

Is she's talking to you, your preferred pronouns are "you/your". If she needs a third person pronoun on the first date, it implies she gossips about first dates, so not a keeper. See, easy.

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