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When a gay couple has a baby, how rude is it to ask which one is the biological parent?
I think it depends how phrase it and how well you know the couple. Maybe don’t say it like “So, whose sperm was it?” when you’re holding the baby.
Is there a reason you want to know though?
What a weird question. Child legitimacy and family lineage has followed us around for millennia fueling scandal and intrigue. I mean, this hypothetical child will be born a bastard. Taking an unnatural approach such as two men bringing in a child to the household is bound to cause tensions in a culture that has only recently begun insisting this is perfectly okay.
A troublesome prospect if the child wants to inherit his noble father’s land and title. But AFAIK the adoptive parents are what matters legally so if the gay couple is married, I don’t think it counts as a “child out of wedlock”.
Although does anybody care about this in any developed western country? My parents weren’t married and that’s the case for >50% of children where I live. Nobody will seriously use the word “bastard” in that way unless they’re a medieval history enthusiast.
I think we’re a bit past the point of worrying about what’s natural and what’s unnatural in our hyper connected post industrial society where we’re utterly reliant on thinking rocks. Homosexual penguin couples have adopted and raised chicks (although eventually divorced), so if anything gay adoption is more natural than antibiotics and social media.
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