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Maine Senate Candidate Graham Platner Outed as an Actual Rapist.
Platner officially denies the allegations, but you can tell from his statement that deep down he knows it's true. He can't admit to it because he would go to actual jail, but everyone knows his campaign is over.
The haters said he would crash and burn, and they were correct. Honestly great call by the haters.
The Maine Democratic Party has one week until the ballot deadline to pick a candidate while stepping on as few toes as possible. Let the games begin.
I hate Platner and would not be surprised if he really did, but Democrats somehow manage to drum up convenient rape allegations against just about everyone the moment they become inconvenient. The allegation itself is just yet another he-said-she-said, and as far as I can see, the "she-said"-part is not even incompatible with both getting drunk and not communicating well.
The story is patchy. Front door unlocked? Hears someone coming up the stairs but doesn't even get off the couch? Doesn't mention trying to push him off or fight him off? Gets away from him into the bedroom but doesn't lock that door? Doesn't call anyone to come over and help her? Sticks around while he's passed out/asleep until the next morning, then tells him go home and don't call her again? Doesn't wake him up because she doesn't want him driving drunk but, y'know, doesn't call the cops after he forced himself on her?
It's not impossible, but that sounds less like rape and more like "hook-up I regret".
I don't think it's patchy. From the article, they were in an on-again off-again relationship, so sexual encounters were normal, and maybe even showing up unannounced could have been normal. It's not difficult to imagine the "no" not being a particularly strongly felt "no", more like a "dude you just barged in here and immediately tried to have sex with me, get off" and then a realization "oh he's not taking 'no' for an answer...". Not taking 'no' for an answer is the dictionary definition of rape, but this case seems closer to marital rape than an actual tried-to-fight-him-off-and-cried-for-help type of rape. If that happened, it's very possible to not feel particularly unsafe while he drunkenly sleeps next to you satiated but get bad vibes that your boundaries were ignored and decide to cut him off the next day.
If anything, those details make the story more plausible. It isn't being played up, just plainly stated as basically a "consent accident", which she apparently sees it as, too. As for me, Graham Platner doesn't seem like the subdue-her-and-rape-her type, despite his rough personality. Well, unless he mistook her for a home intruder.
"What? She tripped, fell, landed on his dick?"
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