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Small-Scale Question Sunday for September 13, 2026

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What dating app would you use to find the smartest possible matches? Hinge is just not enough information and OKC has been neutered and destroyed.

Not looking for women! But noted. I am concerned that the people I want to date just aren't actively on the apps at all because of how frustrating nerdy guys find them in the bay area.

I strongly suspect that network effects are ≈ the only thing that matters about a dating app. Your best bet is using Hinge and looking for subtle class clues.

Do you mean smartest possible matches as in the match is smart, that is, it's a good match, or the match is with a smart person?

Intelligence.

Again, thé match or thé person?

The person.

A smart person who can convincingly feign interest can rob a match blind. Happens all the time, and happened to my aunt. Happening right now to my cousin.

And I had a relative that was murdered by the man she met on eHarmony. Dating has risks.

Previous discussion of Duolicious: 1 2 3

I think multiple "rationalists" have started dating and matchmaking services, but I don't recall any off the top of my head.

https://cuties.app. The people gave me SF striver vibes, but maybe only because to me, dating apps present people very unflatteringly.

EDIT: it also doesn't have many questions.

Marketing article from the developer

At its core, Cuties! is a community-based user directory. It allows people to find each other and vouch for friends.

Cuties! is for intellectually-curious, open-minded, and embodied communities. Someone described it as “intellectual hippies”. I would add people who have a creative online presence, such as a Substack or twitter.

It’s a 2∶1∶1 gender ratio of men∶women∶nonbinary.

Metrics: 28K page views/mo, 4.6K visitors/mo, 2K sign ups, 1.1K published profiles, 660 monthly active users, 115 self-reported met ups, dozens of friends + relationships, 2 engagements, 1 baby.

In comparison, Duolicious has 16,000 active users—male∶female∶nonbinary 5.4∶1∶1.

What anime porn hell is that?

It's a dating service that uses questions to determine compatibility. If you're looking for "the smartest possible matches", its search function lets you run filters on the answers to specific questions: e. g., "Do you enjoy engaging in deep, intellectual conversations with a partner: Yes", "Is it crucial for your partner to enjoy a good debate or intellectual discussion: Yes", and "Is the only thing worse than a landlord, a landlord who invests in multiple properties, and is that such a bad thing that it should be illegal: No".

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