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The "free pussy" thing doesn't strike me as proving anything except that there was some sort of group/sequential sex going on.
It may strike some sheltered folks as crazy that there are women who will turn up to a mostly-male venue for a gangbang of their own volition. First one I saw was in the hotel at MEPS, some aspiring airwoman made good use of the free hotel room. I passed a few guys waiting outside in the hallway and got the lowdown, and "free pussy" was about the extent of what they'd heard. I didn't figure to bat sixth at best.
Leftism struggles with the hole their deracinated religion removed from sexual mores. We have an intuition that women should not be doing that, and neither should the guys. People with sexual mores in their belief system can chalk it up to weakness, sin, moral failings, just bad ideas, daddy issues, unhealthy behavior etc. For leftists, the only value in sexual morality is consent, and thus all bad sex has to be rape, and if consent was explicit there must be some arcane emanation from a penumbra to make it not count.
I’ve always had that problem with the whole “victim blaming is bad” thing. It’s just pretty well obvious that going to a fraternity house, getting high and blackout drunk, etc. are things that will end very badly for you. I’m sure this is a surprise to absolutely nobody. And I don’t feel all that bad about “shaming” a woman who does that kind of thing and has the predictable happen. Like, why shouldn’t that be pointed out? It’s done routinely for every other crime out there. You would not think twice about “shaming” a guy who walked down a street in Compton in fancy clothing and flashing cash. Of course he was going to get robbed. Nor would not think twice about shaming someone who got robbed after posting that they were going on a ten day cruise. Things that are bad ideas should be pointed out. It doesn’t mean they deserve to be robbed, but at the same time, if you insist on being an idiot I don’t feel much need to feel bad for for pointing out that you are or were being foolish.
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It doesn't even prove that. It just means there were horny girls around.
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Was consent explicit?
Like sûre, doing drugs with a guy and stumbling off to another room with him voluntarily is one thing, but it doesn’t imply consent to group sex.
But if group sex happens, as one might predict, and she's not screaming no and is not unconscious, should the men in the situation specifically be locked in a cage? If so, long should they be locked in a cage for?
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It seems that in her initial interview with the police last year, she said she was offered a threesome and accepted (at least in part) because she hoped that meant the two hot frat guys were going to be gay with each other, too. A third guy asked to join in. She said no because she assumed that meant upping the ante to include anal, and Guy #3 left without a fuss.
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