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Culture War Roundup for the week of September 28, 2026

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You need to go somewhere where you can be in the top ten percent of men in the room.

COOL. Now which of these rooms are likely to have higher quality single women in then?

My problem is not being that guy, its finding a place where its worth the effort of being that guy.

My repeated experience is that the women are just not up to snuff. I'm not looking for hookups so I'd rather not burn effort in places where the options aren't great.

But they all THINK they deserve to get "that guy."

I think you need to find smaller niches. Somebody already mentioned that every app is a dating app. Linkedin is a dating app. Pinterest is a dating app. Goodread is a dating app. Youtube is a dating app. Themotte is a dating app if you're into lawyers and AI-doomers.

Think of the most female-coded hobbies you can think of and find some kind of gathering point for them. There, find and befriend a somewhat representative example of a woman you wouldn't mind being married to. She's probably already taken, but this is to give you an idea of what you want.

That woman may have friends, cousins, sisters, built on roughly the same model, that are not taken. Another aspect of it which you are probably aware of, is that you have to completely hide your awareness of the woes of the dating market. Take some kind of imaginary bluepill.

Then once you find somebody good enough, go for it.

Doesn't all this normally count as online stalking/harassment in the eyes of normies?

Sexual interest and compatibility is probably one of the most important parts of a long time marriage partner. Hookups are a fine way to start a relationship. My now wife and I started dating by basically hooking up first. Then we started going on dates.

Women have to maintain that outward facade of confidence because realistically they are going to feel pressure to settle at some point. And when that pressure starts kicking in they want their baseline "settling" outcome to start high and then slowly go down over time.

Chances are by just being in a relationship with them for a few years is enough for them to decide that any guy they are with is good enough. Even if they wouldn't have thought that when they started.

But objectively most hookups are not leading to relationships or marriage.

And I can see why. It would not be DIFFICULT to maintain a roster of booty calls, and the incentive is in favor of doing so because of the aforementioned ghosting behavior. The easy solution to flighty women is to have backups.

But once you have a roster, how to choose one worth settling for?

Once again, the quality of women on offer is not promising. You HAVE to address this shortage.

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