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I think what you're getting at is pretty simple- they treated her like a whore, except they didn't pay her.
That's what everyone has got grasping at straws. It's a status distinction- having sex with a lady you're supposed to be cuddly afterwards and make her tea and give her breakfast the next morning and the like. But society doesn't want to acknowledge that; this was a sorority sister(and thus some sort of lower gentry background), and society doesn't want to acknowledge that that is a relevant variable to their outrage. We're supposed to be beyond status distinctions, or seeing consensual sex as gross.
Good analogy, but if I could adjust: she expected to be treated like a "fun girl" who was into having "fun" at "fun parties" and would get invited to more "fun parties," and instead got treated as a whore who was out doing community service.
Obviously, I think sex is most appropriately done between ladies and gentlemen, but even my prudish ass can understand that other modes exist in the tangled web of human sexuality. But even the Wild West has rules, and you ought to follow those rules.
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There was no lady in the room.
There was a good-time gal. She wanted a casual acquaintance to find a 3rd to Eiffel tower her and take turns pounding her out, but not a 4th because that probably meant anal.
Maybe she hopes they guys will mess around with each other and she'll get to watch, not an uncommon fantasy.
She's unhappy that cooler heads prevail and she dis-invited from Halloween. The dis-invitation (rejection) is the proximate cause of her unhappiness but it was always going to end unhappily. You don't marry the good-time gal.
Feeling unhappy couldn't be the result of anything she did it must be because some external force (the boys) did something to her.
There was a high status woman. By prevailing morality she can't be used as a 'good time girl', not openly.
In times past she'd get the blame and have to marry someone a bit lower than her. But today, that's taboo, so we have to pretend the boys are rapey. But the gods of copybook heading are returning; treating a girl from a wealthy family that way was always banned. The difference is, in times past, she would be sent to 'help her aunt' in another state. That's how my great grandparents met. Today that part's not happening. I mean it will, slowly but surely- she's already banned from the frat parties(which exist primarily to make sure upper class women marry upper class men). But it's not yet, we have seduction charges but not the other side. History repeats, it rhymes, it does all those things at once- and cultural universals will always resurface. Yeah, she's being punished. So are they. The gods of copybook heading go nuclear on everyone.
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If you are a man, there's a good chance you haven't received a lot of actual positive attention in life from anyone but your mom.
I saw something on Twitter to the effect that sluts are great because they actually really like men.
There are women out there who like sex, like men, and are comfortable around them. You knew they aren't yours to keep, but they do show you a good time. Maybe you even learn a thing or two. And you get to feel valued, feel sexually desirable, feel visible. Most men have been with someone like that. I have. Looking back on my young life, I wonder what those women even saw in me.
Essentially, sluts are doing men a great service.
Treating them shabbily is in very poor taste.
Is this a reference to the dis-invitation to Halloween?
Obviously I can't speak for him, but I would say that yes, that was in poor taste.
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Yup-yup, in an ideal world both she and her sexual partners would've gone after the frat/sor leadership trying to shame/cancel them over a consensual encounter. "Sure, you are free to punish us for doing drugs in the frat house if you want to, but what we did under the influence of them is our own business. If you don't make people shut up about that, we'll sue you for sexual harassment."
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True but if she actively wants demeaning group sex whilst proactively consenting to it, what can you do? Also 'You must act like a gentleman to best satisfy women in bed/post-bed' runs so hard against observed tendencies in mate selection.
'Satisfaction' and 'pleasure' are besides the point. It's about 'dignity' and 'status', not those other things.
The outrage is about upholding a social hierarchy, and part of that is that upper class women are supposed to be treated a certain way. Of course it can't be put in those terms, hence all the rape-that-isn't.
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