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Culture War Roundup for the week of March 6, 2023

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Ditto for being the majority caregivers after your child is more than a few years old, and earlier if you aren't breastfeeding. We long ago left the Hobbesian jungle of burly men hunting megafauna with stone tools, and physical strength is largely irrelevant in a world of Zoom meetings, work-from-home and knowledge economies

Women are nowhere near as competitive as men, which means they get underpaid in the workplace.

Women are worse at cooperating than men, because friendships between women are harder and they are more prone to seeing each other as competition.

They're far more prone to use socially approved form of aggression (gossip, exclusion, etc), which doesn't help organisations either.

Furthermore, childcare is low status in society now, hence a man who is willing to forgo a career to take care of children will be seen as less attractive.

If you think you can just snap your fingers and fix this, no, it doesn't work like that.

So, women are less suited for workplaces, will make less money

I do believe that there is significant plasticity and environmental influence on what and who people find attractive.

There simply isn't. Male preferences through history are largely unchanging. Judging by pornography, not fashion which is subject to fads.

Speak for yourself, I find plenty of men cute.

You find them attractive. You don't find them cute in the sense of you find kitten or babies cute. It's a problem of vocabulary.

We oscillate between finding short hair on women attractive, to unattractive, to attractive ad nauseum.

Those are fads, not genuine preferences.

Apart from a very small amount of men with a fetish for short hair, or baldness in women, no one else thinks it's attractive.

Long hair are a good signal of health, same as firm breasts, same as shapely figure.

There simply isn't. Male preferences through history are largely unchanging. Judging by pornography, not fashion which is subject to fads.

But is pornography not also subject to trends? I recall an article from years ago bemoaning that all big mainstream porn was trending towards "big dicks fucking big tits." And you'll also notice that moden porn has signifcantly less pubic hair in it than compared to the 70's. Culture is weird like that.

"big dicks fucking big tits."

Can't comment on penis size, but this guy did a deep dive into the Internet Adult Film Database and found that, contrary to the widespread impression that most porn stars are buxom blondes, the "average" porn star is a brunette 34B. Granted that the study is from 10 years ago.

Frankly those are irrelevant. Look at the woman's asses - there was never a popular pornstar with flat ass.

Looking at the most popular pornstars on this list, I can see plenty (https://fameregistry.com/).

Tori Black, Elsa Jean, Sasha Grey, Sunny Leone, Emily Willis, Riley Reid, Mini Stallion, Lulu Chu, Clara Trinity.

All of those first 5 had perfectly shaped assed.