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MIRI Researcher Don’t be a Quokka Challenge (IMPOSSIBLE).
Katja Grace posts “date me” document. Asks everyone to share.
I originally posted a similar link in the small-scale-questions thread in response to Tyler Cowen linking to the doc on MarginalRevolution. What I didn’t know at the time is that Katja apparently wants this to be spread everywhere?!?!?
Object-level thoughts: I quite liked it. The document makes a compelling case that will appeal strongly to a certain demographic of men. It’s pretty much exactly what you would expect from “mid-30s Bay Area rationalist woman ready to settle down and have kids,” expanded out into a full dating profile. It certainly caught my attention.
Meta-level thoughts: OH NO WHAT ARE YOU DOING? You can send out something like this to your blog readers. They’ll know how to interpret it, and they’re the kind of people you’d be interested in anyways. You can’t toss it out into the black void that is Twitter and expect to come out unscathed. She even dropped her personal email address at the end. Guess who’s going to need a new Gmail account next week?
Protip: If you are a woman, do not ever put something like this in your dating profile. This will be used as an excuse for some weirdo on the edge of sanity to stalk you.
I feel bad for her getting dragged in the quote tweets, but like, what did she expect? Why, in response to getting a negative reaction, is she intent on spreading it even further? That’s the opposite of what she should be doing. Everyone who would be compatible with her has already seen it.
Yeah, she's going to reject all comers. I sincerely doubt this aging, mentally ill, town bike is going to net the sort of man she envisions thawing out her eggs for. Especially from how much she clearly thinks she's amazing, interspersed with all the giant red flags, in her open letter. If anyone I knew saw this and thought about emailing her, I'd pay for them to wrung out by a hooker first to clear their head. I don't know how thirsty and lonely you'd need to be to not see the red flags from orbit on this one.
Okay dude, this is a warning to both you and to @fuckduck9000, below, who just like you, expresses an opinion I largely agree with but chose to do so in a maximally unkind and inflammatory way.
Yes, I get it, it's fun to dunk on dorks and other members of your outgroup, and you particularly delight in dunking on chicks who could be TRP poster girls. @fuckduck9000's speculations about the pathologies that led you here were unnecessary, but he's not wrong that a woman posting a rant about unfuckable incel losers in response to a dude posting a sad dating resume like this would get reported to death. (And in fact, you have collected an impressive number of reports - six, to date - considering you're spilling venom in a way that's usually pretty popular with mottizens.)
I know you're going to get really mad at me because I'm spoiling your fun and you just don't understand why you can't just say that bitches be crazy lol. Frankly, I'm not having it - I'll bet you at least suspected before you clicked the post button that you'd get modded for this, and you chose to do it anyway because you enjoyed letting 'er rip too much.
Chads and stacies and incels, evolutionary psychology, TRP, the effects of social media and feminism and whatever else on the dating market, women regretting their life choices and turning into childless neurotics who see "The Wall" approaching - those are all valid topics of discussion, and we've certainly had enough threads about them in the past. What we do not want to become is a place to just dunk on the chads or the stacies because it's fun and someone made a fool of herself on the Internet. The OP was a reasonable top-level post. Lots of the discussion has been reasonable, even if not always kind or charitable. Your post was just "LOL delusional dried up slut" expressed with slightly more words.
Yeah, I chuckled. In fact, I admit your posts often make me chuckle and sigh before I mod you. But you still knew better. You've been warned often enough in the past. Considering your lengthy rap sheet and that @naraburns recently warned that we are going to start cracking down on cheap shot comments that degrade the quality of discourse, consider yourself fortunate you are not eating a ban for this.
Good. Shows you aren't completely hollowed out. I hope you can hold onto that much of your humanity as long as possible.
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