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It is worse than disgust and lovecraftian horror. It's cringe. I am talking about that specific picture.
I am fine with surrogacy as long the surrogate mother and the mother providing the egg cell are different persons.
But the way the new kids on the block caricature the spaces they have been allowed in is cringy. Also true for the new-ish breed of MtF (the ones that put videos on tiktok for periods and breast pains)
On the other hand probably this new cringe is pervading everywhere - everything now is not about the end result, it's about the performance.
Cringe is in the eye of the beholder. I find this comment cringe.
My favorite take on cringe is JrEg's schitzopost on it.
"'Cringe!' they choke out at the TikTok kids. Do they care that they are cringe? No! they share the cringe they like the cringe they comment on the cringe and then only then do they replicate the cringe themselves. And if no one's cringing then is it cringe?"
Cringe, JrEg goes on to explain, amounts to an emotional box erected by societal norms. Placing yourself subservient to the cringe of others, he argues, leaves you unable to remain consistently based in your own ideals.
I think I made a similar point a while ago.
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