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Culture War Roundup for the week of May 22, 2023

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Well, if they are lying, I expect we'll hear Comrie's version of the story soon, and I'd be inclined to believe her version over theirs if they have factually contradictory narratives.

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Yeah because in the year 2023 a he said she said involving a black man and a white woman will surely favor the white woman… She has already been dragged at severe cost to herself. She needs to stick to what she can prove; not call the blacks liars.

Somehow I doubt that, given their story, as they tell it, has some pretty conspicuous and fantastical gaps you're willing to overlook and/or create your own implausible account which is definitely not the story they are telling.

/lukeskywalker quote

Somehow I doubt that,

Well, I can't do anything about you insisting I'm lying about what I believe.

given their story, as they tell it, has some pretty conspicuous and fantastical gaps

I'm open to being persuaded on this, but I don't see conspicuous and fantastical gaps.

you're willing to overlook

Implies I am just willfully cherrypicking which facts I believe. Again, I cannot persuade you of my ingenuousness, but there really isn't much point in engaging if your go-to move in any disagreement is "You're lying, you don't actually believe that."

and/or create your own implausible account

Okay, you find my account implausible. I don't.

which is definitely not the story they are telling.

Clarify this for me. You seem to be claiming that they are claiming that she physically lifted/moved/forced a kid off his bike and manhandled it out of his possession with brute force.

In the above link (which is their version of events), the only statement I find resembling this is:

She then pushed her way onto the bike and attempted to remove it from the docking station and take it.

I suppose you could read that as "She physically forced a resisting teenager off the bike" (which I agree would be very implausible). Which do you think is more likely: that that is indeed what they meant, that she used her Pregnant Lady Strength to bully them, or that they meant she was pushing the kid on the bike and he got off rather than escalating? Note that this does not make that version of events true, but it does not seem implausible to me.

I mean, we have the video -- it doesn't really look like there'd been any shoving match recently?

Much more likely the dude was hanging around in the general vicinity of the bike but still felt entitled to it -- once he noticed the pregnant woman mounting it he started making a fuss, to which "fuck you, it's not your bike" seems like a New Yorker response with much precedent.