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A lot of the time when dating comes up, someone will say “go and join your local church”. At least in my case, I go to (Catholic) Mass on Sundays but it’s a church service not a social occasion so I don’t meet people.
What people seem to mean is “join a community centred around a church” which is a rather different thing. Can anyone give me some advice about what kind of groups / notices I ought to look for? I’m not in Europe or America which makes things a bit harder.
Take on a leadership position at a charity endeavor with the church which would appeal to women, e.g., something to do with kids. Ask your priest about opportunities or projects which could use some help and then take on more responsibility than just participation. Could be something as easy as organizing weekend spaghetti cooks or fish fries. I have never been catholic so I'm not sure about the particular catholic flavor of these things.
In the US there is a charity called Big Brothers Big Sisters which is about mentoring poor/urban youth. It's easy to move up to supervisory/organizing positions and this, in my experience, was an excellent way to meet quality young women. In pretty much any endeavor it's important to look your best and having authority/respect or at least the perception of authority/respect is a great door opener.
OP is in Asia(I'm guessing Singapore or Nagasaki?) so it might be different there, but in much of the world Catholic parishes never have women and men cooking at the same time- either the entirely-male Knights of Columbus or equivalent handle putting it on(this is most common with events like a fish fry, where attendees pay directly for plates at a big batch meal), or the ladies of whatever volunteer society have a potluck. The main exceptions would be either ethnic parishes, where there might be some kind of parish-wide ethnic food fundraiser(these are probably less common in Asia) or cartoonishly wealthy parishes where individual parishioners are able to feed the entire crowd.
Just fyi, but I'm a german catholic and our local youth organisation Messdiener (literally "mass servants", when I was still a kid we would be obligated to help with the mass ~once per month per person) as well as the katholische Landjugend (literally "catholic rural youth", technically different but generally speaking was just the same people as the Messdiener) include both men and women, and does these kinds of things. From the things I remember off the top of my hat, the yearly 2-weeks camping trips had plenty of supervising adults of both sexes present and dating was rampant both between adults as well as the kids (sometimes even between the two groups if the age differential wasn't too big), likewise charity events like "72-hours of help" which usually involved building and/or repairing houses for charitable accommodation or for religious events.
But for both groups it would be very unusual to join only as an adult.
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