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What are some great first date ideas? What worked for you guys? Previously I've taken girls to the museum and I think that's fine -- you can always talk about the art if conversation stalls, and it segues very well into getting coffee or iced-cream afterward. Part of me is worried that it's too boring or conventional though -- maybe something with some light activity involved?
On that note, I've recently moved to the UK so punting doesn't seem like such a bad idea for a date -- Lord knows I've seen plenty of couples doing it near my neck of the woods.
Instruction unclear; my date got tired and whiny after a few minutes of retrieving the footballs I kicked.
My go-to date is drinks at my place; no need to introduce unnecessary extra steps. Drinks at the pool of my building is always a great option too, location/season/time-of-day permitting. Pool dates are like catnip for chicks, as they are always eager to get photos of themselves in bikinis for social media. “If it involves a bikini, the answer is yes” reads many a girl’s online dating profile.
Plus, them having less clothing on means a smoother experience getting her naked once you’re back in the apartment/hotel room, and thus it leaves less time for her to think and it increases the general feeling of “omg like one thing just led to another and it just like happened!” for her.
One could also smoothly invite yourself over to her place and hope for visitor’s field advantage, if you deem your place insufficiently cool or there are any other obstacles. Their defenses are typically lower when presented with this idea relative to inviting her over to your place. On the other hand, this option might not be practical if she still lives with family. You also might not know if she lives with roommates and to what extent they might cock-block, inadvertently or not, or otherwise ruin the vibe.
Sometimes roommates can be worse cockblocks than parents. Mothers will often be pleasant, offer a quick chat, and then make herself scarce. Fathers will often just retreat back to their man-cave and seethe in solitude. Roommates, however, might just be sufficiently nosy and busybodied to constantly poke and mosey around. Some might try to involve themselves into the date, to add another person or persons for which you have to court-jester and monkey-dance.
If a girl’s otherwise being difficult, another option is to agree to a date at a bar/lounge near your place, but tell her you’ll meet her downstairs/outside/in the lobby of your building or whatever. You can facilitate this by sending her an Uber/Lyft/taxi/etc. When she arrives, just start talking and walking back to your place like you’re giving a guided tour. Almost always they’ll naturally follow without objection, and you can just proceed like the planned date was drinks at your place all along. Even if you don’t bang her then and there and you do have to take her to a bar/lounge, her having already been in your place means she’ll be more likely to return afterward for the finish.
Is this a joke? I’ve never heard of Pool dates and I probably lived in the building with the best pool scene for a residence in North America (a lus high end hotel). Seems way too aggressive especially since most chicks would seem to think it’s putting them too much on the spot to be in a swimsuit for a date. It does work after you know each other.
The back to place for drinks seems a bit weird to unless it’s a group thing. Boys coming over for drinks before doing something.
Honestly for one on one a decent happy hour seems the easiest.
The first sentence was a joke, clearly. I did not, in fact, take a girl out to a field and make her chase down footballs that I kicked, whether it be the handegg or divegrass kind. However, come to think of it, I do hope to attain such a level of Chaddery some day.
The rest of it is—for better or worse—not a joke; in some ways I wish we lived in a timeline in which it were. The above has been my strategy for several years now spanning across different cities and countries, both when I’ve been traveling and when I’m just otherwise chilling at my home city at the time.
Chicks will happily throw on bikinis to eat hot chip and lie around the pool and the beach, thot around at random pool and yacht parties, music festivals, sports bra and spandex shorts to go to the gym. They actively seek out activities where they have plausible deniability to wear skimpy outfits. It’s hardly putting them on the spot or asking for much to get them into a bikini for a first date. Chicks rather enjoy being sex objects, might as well play it to your benefit.
I think so, too. I think women often want excuses to show off their clothes or bodies. They're very coy about admitting these things even though it's obvious to all.
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