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How often do you spend time socially with somebody 1-1 who is not a family member or someone you’re dating? What do you do, and how do you initiate the interaction?
I realized that I basically never do this since I graduated college, and wondering what other people’s experiences are.
1-1 is about 60% of how I socialise with my friends. I like to see them all at least once a quarter but some I see more often than others.
Usually it starts with a short text message or a phone call. Sometimes we drop by each other's houses if we're in the area, sometimes we go out to a pub or restaurant, sometimes we go to the cinema or a gig together, sometimes if the weather is good we sit in the park with a beer or four. Maybe do some casual sport like golf or bowling or host a barbecue or a bonfire if we can get a group together. That kind of stuff.
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About twice of week. It helps to have a standing weekly meeting to do something. Tennis or golf are great in this respect.
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Once a week maybe? I go for lunch with friends. I've made conscious efforts to try to maintain a few friendships this way. One from primary school and a few from university. Occasionally we go for beers after work as well.
More than that I hang out with people in discord, frequently 1-1 (at least if you don't count people sitting with a baby nearby), for at least an hour practically every day.
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Once a month ish with some longtime friends. We catch up on events that happened. Discuss some big ideas. I have a few longtime friends, I like having a once a quarter meeting with them.
Among my family half of us maintain these long term friendships and the other half dont have them. So it's not weird if you don't do this.
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