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Culture War Roundup for the week of November 27, 2023

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This is just incomprehensible to me. I'll admit that I grew up sheltered and nerdy, but still: none of my friends were having sex or really even close to having sex in middle school. Maybe the 90s were better after all?

Maybe this is difference between Sweden and the US but when I grew up in the 90s in a completely white, affluent suburb my estimation was that some 20-25% had sex before the end of middle school, with women having slightly more sex (due to being able to find marginally older partners). Another 30-40% had sex some time during high school (weighted towards the end) and the remaining 40-50% during university.

The survey reports that 60% of teenagers report using a condom during their last sexual encounter. Is that not kinda low given teenage pregnancy rates? I am a prude in real life who dislikes salacious talk, so I haven't talked about condom usage with my friends. So I don't really have a strong intuition here.

Who the hell uses condoms for anything but one night stands? You might as well not have sex at that point.

You might as well not have sex at that point.

I would like to suggest that perhaps you are not quite doing it correctly.

Fucking with condoms is like eating candy with the wrapper on, only worth it if you're starving.

Perhaps it's different if you're circumcised and have somewhat limited sensitivity in the first place.

I despise condoms and avoid them where I can, and I'm circumcised myself.

The only people I've heard offer apolagia for them (from a non-std prevention pov) are circumcised men, which leads me to believe that there is a connection.

Am circumcised, condoms suck -- I think you need to do some more field research man.

I think you misunderstood me, perhaps I was unclear.

I'm not saying that everyone who's circumcised defend condoms, I'm saying that the ones that I've heard defend condoms are cricumcised.

Anyone who's saying condoms aren't that bad is an extreme outlier in some way -- to the point where I'd question their honesty.

There are some men who genuinely do like them, though not in the sense of "can barely tell it's on at all". Condom kink as revolving around either the sensation of pressured latex (compare bodysuit latex fetishism, or pooltoy fetishism) or as a psychological thing isn't the most common kink, but neither is it especially rare.

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