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Wellness Wednesday for January 24, 2024

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26 M. Sometimes I have trouble maintaining an erection with the girl I’m seeing. I’m very attracted to her, but when the moment comes to put the condom on, I get anxious and lose it. I’ve abstained from masturbating for a few days before seeing her and it still happens—other times I’m fine but we can’t have sex for various reasons. We haven’t had sex yet because of this.

This is seriously fucking with my head and very embarrassing. The last relationship I was in I had no issues with this. I think I’m just worried about the actual act itself for some reason (is this performance anxiety??) and need to cool my head.

Health and well-being is fine: I haven’t watched porn in two months (it was a bad habit so maybe something to do with it?); I eat healthily; I exercise vigorously daily; I get sufficient sleep; I’ve had a vasectomy and she’s on birth control so no pregnancy worry; I masturbate every 2-3 days.

Any ideas or suggestions on this?

Viagra. It works. Especially if you're a pre-mature infant with pulmonary hypertension, but also if your dick don't stand up straight.

Thanks. It just goes against my perception of myself as a young, healthy guy and I’m concerned about psychological dependence. Probably not a bad idea for the first time or two.

Man, the number of embarrassed "healthy young guys" I've seen with this haha. I presume you're OK with rawdogging? If so, it is likely psychological, and taking the pill once or twice might convince your brain that tolerating eating the lozenge with the wrapper on is worth staying hard strong for next time.

Or you could lay off the porn for long enough that you're raging horny, which should probably work too. But at the end of the day, sildenafil is effective and safe, so you pop that pill and go for it, you've got nothing to lose and no need to tell her either. Just go for the low doses first, it can cause stuffiness and headaches, especially at the higher ones.

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