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mrvanillasky
Indo Aryan Thot Leader
28m ago
Green, the chicken took a while to cook. I bought red paste, will try it this weekend.
madeofmeat
33m ago
Think about living in a small village community where you're a skilled artisan of some sort. You feel confident in your work which you do autonomously under your own judgment, get pleasure from your mastery of it, and can immediately see how the results of your work benefit yourself and those around you. You're a known and valued member of your community and you have deep and long-lasting personal and professional ties to those around you. Alienation is the opposite of that.
BahRamYou
45m ago
and consider why she'd be sending you proof that she aborted?
because she's not an idiot, she's also aware of how scammy this seems but she still felt it important to tell me.
Anyway yeah, problem solved I guess. I like this woman but I'm not at all in love with her like how the people here seem to think, just trying to avoid being a total scumbag. But it seems to have all worked out so... hooray!
Corvos
58m ago
A statistically even worse method of birth control. Recommending this is 100% colored by ideological bias.
You are conflating two things:
- Not having sex is a 100% effective way of not having children.
- Telling your kids not to have sex has much lower efficacy, modulo the personality of the kid and the relationship with the parents.
Most of the suggesters likely have confidence in the method (as they should) and in their kids (rightly or wrongly) and therefore suggest this method.
MadMonzer
Pedo! Pedo! Pedo! Out! Out! Out!
58m ago
Slavery was universal in the ancient world, and in some form (state slavery, chattel slavery, serfdom/peonage) right up until shortly after the Industrial Revolution.
Chattel slavery was illegal in Christian Europe by the High Middle Ages. (This ban never extended to overseas possessions). Serfdom was abolished in the vast majority of France by 1318, and de facto in England by 1500. Serfdom also appears to be the exception rather than the rule in Northern Italy.
Western Europe produces a distinctive civilisation long before that civilisation industrialises.
Botond173
58m ago
Why are you assuming that he 've had a uniquely bad experience? I'm not from the US but to me what he's describing seems to be the usual consequences of Mexican or Central American underclass immigrants forming criminal gangs in a town/city where their numbers reach a critical mass. I don't assume that is a unique development, especially not in Virginia which probably attracts a disproportionate number of immigrants due to the vicinity of the Beltway region.
CertainlyWorse
No one is coming. It's just you.
1hr ago
I wonder what this means for men in their social experiences with other men.
Does it mean that with a flatter curve you don't know what sort of personality you're going to bump into? While women bump into 'another basic bae'?
MadMonzer
Pedo! Pedo! Pedo! Out! Out! Out!
1hr ago
In particular, a positive balance of trade requires negative net foreign investment in the United States by accounting identity. Trump continues to encourage foreign investment in the United States, and to discourage foreign investment by American companies.
TowardsPanna
1hr ago
I have no idea why I added the word "major" to country. I was just trying to ask about the differences between anonymized large data sets, and smaller but far more specific data sets.
I guess I'm trying to find out... how open to abuse is this system - is it simple for a somewhat resourced person or group to just set up a company and acquire sensitive data on business rivals or personal enemies or whatever else.
MadMonzer
Pedo! Pedo! Pedo! Out! Out! Out!
1hr ago
A lot of monetary policy thinking starts with MV=PY which is an accounting identity.
For non-economists - M is the total quantity of money in the economy, V is the number of times each dollar is spent in a year, P is the price level, and Y is real GDP. So we say that the total amount of money spent is equal to nominal GDP. A lot of monetarist and monetarist-adjacent macroeconomics is arguing about which elements in this accounting identity are causes and which ones are consequences.
orthoxerox
If you can read this, you're using a custom theme
2hr ago
Green, yellow or red?
Southkraut
The rain fell gentlier.
2hr ago
As always, The Worm Ourobouros.
Also, The Sea-Wolf.
And I notice some parallels between the two. An effortpost - as effortful as I can make it, anyways - is in the works.
TowardsPanna
2hr ago
Why have you shaped your objection into one reddit-esque snark? The post would be more informative if you elaborated a bit more on each point instead.
orthoxerox
If you can read this, you're using a custom theme
3hr ago
I think it has daily challenges, like Wordle
Botond173
4hr ago
Franco, like Emperor Franz Joseph, committed the grace political mistake of living too long.
Botond173
4hr ago
What I saw of Vinland Saga suggested a show that takes historical setting seriously while using it to explore themes about violence, revenge, and the possibility of redemption.
It should be noted though that the title is rather misleading as the plot of season 1 has nothing to do with Vinland at all.
Botond173
4hr ago
I was merely trying to illustrate how such seemingly innocuous and completely normal statements appear to Blue Tribe activists.
fmac
Ask me about bike lanes
5hr ago
yeah it's a fine method of birth control
It's statistically a mediocre method of birth control. In my opinion, recommending it is somewhat colored by ideological bias (either anti-sex, or anti-western medicine).
I would generally assume the ideological spread most likely to believe this are Christian/right leaning.
I'd simply tell her not to have pre-marital sex
A statistically even worse method of birth control. Recommending this is 100% colored by ideological bias.
Same assumption as above but more certain.
I wouldn't even be mad if she got knocked up
This is just a value judgement, but one I overwhelmingly assume/associate with the Christian/right wing area of human beliefs.
philosoraptor
5hr ago
Vast oversimplification, but yeah, after 5 solid years of unbridled acceleration into identity politic madness, can you point to ANY particular piece of media, or successful ad campaign, or memorable (in a positive way!) pop culture event that got published/released that had any lasting impact?
The woke aspect does seem to have helped Baldur's Gate 3 a little, and it managed to both have those aspects and be a really good traditional-ish RPG. Though other than budget constraints, I don't see why it couldn't have had the elements it had and a PC option who was a conventionally attractive, more or less straight woman. (Shadowheart is at best an honorable mention in that regard.)
Lizzardspawn
6hr ago
Nope. This is from an old communist joke - I want to criticize comrade stalin. He is working too much, he strains himself too much for the good of the people. He needs to rest more.
Gaashk
6hr ago
I meant I only watched the first actual Avatar, not the other two actual Avatars. But if you haven't read A Fire upon the Deep and A Deepness in the Sky, they're quite good.
You can argue they could have or should have chosen some other (likely even more miserable) grind, but you don't actually need to despise them.
This isn't meant to be a continuation of the conversation you're having, but my answer to this is: Porque no los dos? It's perfectly reasonable to despise someone who defrauds others in predatory ways with huge psychological and possibly financial consequences for their target; disgust is an appropriate thing to feel. Most people who do terrible things do so because of some prior circumstance; serial killers often have long histories of childhood abuse, mobsters and criminals often grow up in unstable and poverty-stricken backgrounds, that in and of itself doesn't excuse the act. Dysfunction breeds dysfunction. You can feel sorry for all these bad actors while also simultaneously thinking their actions are beyond the pale, that it warrants serious punishment, and that it may not be possible to reintegrate them into a stable society that values prosociality.
My great-grandfather grew up shovelling shit in a village in Fujian, made his way into Malaysia, had his property confiscated by the Japanese (and his brother executed) during WW2, and was burned badly in an explosion at one point. His life would have been mindbreaking to many others, but he made his way up through honest labour and effort, and at no point did he resort to any such behaviour. In other words I think it's important to be able to recognise the circumstances that led to immoral behaviour while at the same time realising that people who do these things should be condemned heavily, and that one's agency doesn't automatically get suspended in such a case.
That said, on the remote chance that you really did get her pregnant, and she decides to keep it, and you can verify this, do the right thing and provide for your damn kid.
Sorry, but I could not disagree more with this moral dictum (which I consider to be exceptionally selective) and find myself to be far more in agreement with the other commenters here. Especially if this was baby-trapping. OP should have mitigated his risk more effectively, but I don't believe he has any obligation to support a family created entirely against his will, premised solely on the deception of the mother. Here, all choice goes to her, and all obligation goes to him regardless of whether he was duped or not. There is no world where that is an even remotely just outcome, and it creates perverse incentives in favour of patently undesirable behaviour such as baby-trapping which just results in more dysfunctional out-of-wedlock births, the very thing such a policy should ostensibly be trying to mitigate. The only reason why women do this in the first place is that it works. Maybe it shouldn't.
It's particularly unjust in context of the widely-accepted ability of the mother to avail herself of safe haven laws regardless of the circumstances of conception; an abandonment option which unilaterally ensures that the kid will be left without any biological parents by default and deprives the father of any choice to parent if he wishes to do so. (Compare this with parental surrender; a hypothetical surrender-mechanism that still leaves said kid with one parent and lets that parent decide what relationship she wants to maintain with it.)
That being said, we've talked about this at length before and I suspect we're firmly at an impasse on this topic. Probably an example of one of these terminal moral things that's impossible to shift via argumentation.
EDIT: added more
roystgnr
6hr ago
I'm 99% sure you're asking "is the Vernor Vinge version of Avatar a thing", and my answer is a useless "no"; at least I'm not finding any hint of it on fan fiction sites.
But on the 1% chance you're unfamiliar with Vinge and asking "is this sort of science fiction universe you're talking about a thing", I feel like I have to speak up to tell you to go get a copy of A Fire Upon The Deep now. The way he weaves primitive and high technology together into one coherent and fascinating story puts Dances With Smurfs to shame.
CertainlyWorse
No one is coming. It's just you.
6hr ago
Something is clearly missing from your life you really desire and I want you to satisfy it, just not in a way which I think will lead you to disaster.
Besides the lessons learnt, this is the biggest thing to take away. Addressing the core need that isn't being met (intimacy) and consciously addressing it in a healthy way.
Have you ever made useful things with your own hands? Or ran your own small business?
There's a blog I read that posts interviews with small and medium business owners: how they started out, what their challenges were and are, what their business model looks like. There's a common theme running through all of them: they could all earn more working for hire, but instead they stubbornly cling to their businesses. "It's good to be your own boss, no one will block you from working overtime or skipping vacation" is the typical joke.
My assumption is that they all are especially sensitive to alienation.
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